Well it seems like you guys had a LOT of sex for quite some time, for some women a lot of sex can actually lower their want for it. But you might wanna think of other things too.
She may be depressed. You are 27&29. You dated 5 years. She's probably ready for marriage by now, but you only seem to care about sex. You say you love her. If you loved her sex wouldn't worry you, it wouldn't give you reason to think of calling things off. Try being a real boyfriend, do things together like go for walks, the movies, a museum, try an art project together, go on a group date, a vacation together. Cook dinner with her. Do things you both love to do. She like art, photography, singing, you guys should go do that, have a karaoke night! And do some things you like as well, go see a sports game, a match, or go bowling or ice skating or Roller skate.
You are far too focused on sex. A healthy relationship isn't focused on sex its about being yourselves and loving the other. Protect each other like parents, tease each other like siblings, trust each other like best friends and love one another the way only lovers can.
Cool it with the sex, and also go see a doctor, you might have a high sex drive that she just can't keep up with. But more importantly see a counselor. This isn't healthy. If you really love her you'll take this advice.
My friend your thinking is completely wrong. Your in relation for 5 years then the first question is raising why you didn't get married. This sudden changes is very common as per my personal experience. Me and my wife did sex once in a month or sometime it took 3 months of distance to have sex. But it doesn't mean that she dis like me or try to avoid me.
I try to explain you: - It was just like, Suppose your eating a same dish continuously till hole month or year. What will happen after sometime you hat that dish and try something else for change of test.
So this is the fact that you did not give any space to you relationship to build up.In your relation You give first priority to the sex only. But you forget to respect your relationship.
I hope now you understand what mistakes you may don.
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A elationship with a guy that I had met on the Interest had just ended and I had gotten vry badly hurt....I told myself, time that I would give Internet dating a chance, however, a few days later, I received and email from a gentlement and we began corresponding for a few months...We got together April 14th, 2013 and we are now getting married on the 19th of August.
I guess the old saying is true...Never give up trying. I met the most wonderful man I have ever know....
Since it seemed to happen gradually, I wonder if she is depressed or if she has a health issue that might lower her libido. If it is boring, you two should spice it up a little. Find out what it is that entices her and bring it on. Unless there is something that you enjoy that she does not, you may have to compromise. It sounds like it is reaching extremes if you are sleeping in different rooms, so sounds like to me, you need to move on this pretty quickly and reign that sex life back into an excitement stage. Best of luck to you!!
I think you need to talk to her rationally. If she just lost her sex drive, she might need medical attention, as this isn't normal.
If she likes sex, but sex with you is boring or dirty (kind of opposites, actually), then maybe she needs to talk to you about what you can both do so she can enjoy it more.
If it's neither of those and either you have different sex drives or she's just not interested in sex with you, then I'm afraid you don't have a future.
You need to find out if she's willing to work on these issues, or if she just thinks it's something you'll need to deal with, in which case you need to part ways.
The purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you are compatible with someone. When you find out that you are incompatible in one or more significant ways, it's time to end that relationship. Clearly, you two are sexually incompatible.
PS - The change was NOT sudden. You had good sex for two years, and it's been in decline for THREE years. Three years is not sudden.
Don't sweat it! Have drink, check out some naughty sites from the Sex Dating Directory and find someone who's more than willing to have sex. If she finds out you can always tell her that you have needs like everyone else.
How important is sex to you? It is clear that over those three years (agree with Pick This that this is not sudden) her sex drive has changed and yours has not. You need to sit down and get to the bottom of this. If she is not interested you need to decide if you would be happy with less sex but be with her or leave her and find someone more sexually compatible.
There is an old saying that "you do not run after a bus once you have caught it" You are the bus and she thinks she has got you all sorted out and she can relax now. Do not be a chump and let this woman condem you to a life of frustration, walk away now while you still can, you have been played long enough. With an attitude like "its boring. overrated and dirty" live is only ever going to get worse.
I think the problem today is that nobody gets married, you clearly rate sex as the most important thing in a relationship and perhaps your gf just feels used.
There has to be more to life than sex surely ?? How come you have not proposed marriage yet ?
She's probably seeing someone! She needs MORE THAN SEX to survive this relationship!
5 years, you're just hanging on by a thread. . . . I have a feeling it's ONLY SEX you're interested in. Have you even told her YOU LOVE HER? What part do you love about her? Sex?
C'mon there's more THAN THAT! I need her side of the story. I can't believe you! There's your side, there's her side, and there's ONE SIDE. The judge or counselor.
I'm it!
I think she is just bored of the same thing over and over. Try searching the internet for some new tricks or buy a sex toy to lend a hand.
Now she is 27 and she wants your relationship to end with marriage, it is a high time for her to make a family but you wanted sex without any legal committments
Ask her what she wants in the bed room, and how she like it insted of just give it to her the way you think she wants it if that dont work it very possible shes cheatting. some women would love a man like you. ijs.
Do you know how to make love to a woman or only how to have sex? No wonder she's fed up with it. There's nothing worse than a man with no idea about what turns a woman on pawing at you and whining about wanting sex. You are 29 not 15. Get educated before you lose her.
It is simply, you are being gross for her to accept. Now, stop showing sexual interests so often and focus on love (relationship) with her. She thinks you are pervert now so you should change.
try something to surprise her, if ur realy into this relationship, try proposing her, and literally, " surprise her" <
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