You can file a divorce by publication and basically you file a divorce but because you are separated and you do not know where she is your lawyer or you will tell the city where you last lived together in any newspaper of the city and this type of divorce they do not need to know where she lives but it cost just a bit more to file. However, she has 1 year to appeal unlike a regular divorce they have 30 days to appeal. Every state is different and has their own laws I am just going by my state. The way the law works. If both of you are separated and for example you live in Texas and she lives in Florida. The venue will be in the city and county of the person who files first. So for example she files first then you will have to hire a lawyer or answer her divorce all the way to her state and it costs money to travel. But if you file first then she has to come to you and hire a lawyer in your city or a lawyer that will travel to your city. The other thing is that whoever files first usually pays for the divorce petition and would be called the petitioner. The person that replies usually replies and does not pay for the petition unless the judge orders it. Now just cause you file first does not mean that you will win whatever your asking or if she files second does not means she will win whatever she is asking. If it had been within 30 days you could have filed for an annulment which means their was never really a marriage and it was all a mistake or a lie. Since it is past 3 months then their was a marriage but then again if you live away from each other for longer then 6 months you can file on ground of abandonment.
Talk to a lawyer. I don't know what the divorce laws are in whatever country you live in. You are writing in English so I am going to assume you live in North America (Canada or the US).
If you live in North America, no judge wants to hear your complaints.
Want a divorce? Fine. No problem. Doesn't matter if the other person wants it or not, and doesn't matter why you want a divorce, doesn't matter who was bad or who was good .. the Judge doesn't want to hear it and it makes no difference to the divorce.
Split everything 50-50, decide on who gets custody of the children, set visitation rights for the non-custodial parent, and set the child-support amounts that the non-custodial person will pay.
Your lawyer goes through the paperwork, the Judge approves, the divorce gets filed into the government records.
Poof. Magic. Divorce. And a lawyers bill.
In Canada anyone can get divorced uncontested for about $600 Been 15 years since I got My Divorce so it may have changed a bit . If You get a Lawyer They will try and bleed You for at least $5,000+ so it's worth it to do it Yourself and save a few thousand.
You must be BORED or STUCK ON STUPID....You sound like u r from one of those countries where the laws are very strict when it comes to Divorces...Speak to an attorney it is why they're in that business...And quite frankly, I hope ur wife get u real GOOD ;) !
You have to be married for a least a year in UK. Google Divorce Online and you will get some websites up to help you.
Good luck.
Are you both "separated?"-& feel you're both ready for a "divorce" yet?-if you still live together, 'split-up' & give each other space to mellow out on,-then when you both are ready to file, then go from there-don't file too soon, things may change & you both may wanna give your marriage another chance.-good luck.
Talk to a lawyer or consult divorce preparation website and they will guide you through.
Attorneys at divorcecliniconline.com
to achieve this on your own head to your county court clerk and recieve an application when you fill it out and return it you'll need to play a filing fee they vary by venue thats step #1
Go to the courthouse and file the paperwork (duh)...
You don't necessarily need her consent, the court will give her time to respond and if she doesn't then they will consider it "uncontested", it will take longer but you can still get a divorce.
That is for the U.S., based on your English, I'm guessing you're not actually in the U.S. so you need to abide by the laws of your country.. seek an attorney for legal help.
Questions like this are why lawyers were invented. I think they're called solicitors in your country. Hire one. <
vendredi 31 octobre 2014
My girlfriend doesn't want sex any more?
Well it seems like you guys had a LOT of sex for quite some time, for some women a lot of sex can actually lower their want for it. But you might wanna think of other things too.
She may be depressed. You are 27&29. You dated 5 years. She's probably ready for marriage by now, but you only seem to care about sex. You say you love her. If you loved her sex wouldn't worry you, it wouldn't give you reason to think of calling things off. Try being a real boyfriend, do things together like go for walks, the movies, a museum, try an art project together, go on a group date, a vacation together. Cook dinner with her. Do things you both love to do. She like art, photography, singing, you guys should go do that, have a karaoke night! And do some things you like as well, go see a sports game, a match, or go bowling or ice skating or Roller skate.
You are far too focused on sex. A healthy relationship isn't focused on sex its about being yourselves and loving the other. Protect each other like parents, tease each other like siblings, trust each other like best friends and love one another the way only lovers can.
Cool it with the sex, and also go see a doctor, you might have a high sex drive that she just can't keep up with. But more importantly see a counselor. This isn't healthy. If you really love her you'll take this advice.
My friend your thinking is completely wrong. Your in relation for 5 years then the first question is raising why you didn't get married. This sudden changes is very common as per my personal experience. Me and my wife did sex once in a month or sometime it took 3 months of distance to have sex. But it doesn't mean that she dis like me or try to avoid me.
I try to explain you: - It was just like, Suppose your eating a same dish continuously till hole month or year. What will happen after sometime you hat that dish and try something else for change of test.
So this is the fact that you did not give any space to you relationship to build up.In your relation You give first priority to the sex only. But you forget to respect your relationship.
I hope now you understand what mistakes you may don.
↑↑↑↑↑↑"A year and a half ago, I was just about to give up on Internet dating...although I had met several men that I have the highest respect for,none seemed to be real serious in persueing a long distance relationship.
A elationship with a guy that I had met on the Interest had just ended and I had gotten vry badly hurt....I told myself, time that I would give Internet dating a chance, however, a few days later, I received and email from a gentlement and we began corresponding for a few months...We got together April 14th, 2013 and we are now getting married on the 19th of August.
I guess the old saying is true...Never give up trying. I met the most wonderful man I have ever know....
Since it seemed to happen gradually, I wonder if she is depressed or if she has a health issue that might lower her libido. If it is boring, you two should spice it up a little. Find out what it is that entices her and bring it on. Unless there is something that you enjoy that she does not, you may have to compromise. It sounds like it is reaching extremes if you are sleeping in different rooms, so sounds like to me, you need to move on this pretty quickly and reign that sex life back into an excitement stage. Best of luck to you!!
I think you need to talk to her rationally. If she just lost her sex drive, she might need medical attention, as this isn't normal.
If she likes sex, but sex with you is boring or dirty (kind of opposites, actually), then maybe she needs to talk to you about what you can both do so she can enjoy it more.
If it's neither of those and either you have different sex drives or she's just not interested in sex with you, then I'm afraid you don't have a future.
You need to find out if she's willing to work on these issues, or if she just thinks it's something you'll need to deal with, in which case you need to part ways.
The purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you are compatible with someone. When you find out that you are incompatible in one or more significant ways, it's time to end that relationship. Clearly, you two are sexually incompatible.
PS - The change was NOT sudden. You had good sex for two years, and it's been in decline for THREE years. Three years is not sudden.
Don't sweat it! Have drink, check out some naughty sites from the Sex Dating Directory and find someone who's more than willing to have sex. If she finds out you can always tell her that you have needs like everyone else.
How important is sex to you? It is clear that over those three years (agree with Pick This that this is not sudden) her sex drive has changed and yours has not. You need to sit down and get to the bottom of this. If she is not interested you need to decide if you would be happy with less sex but be with her or leave her and find someone more sexually compatible.
There is an old saying that "you do not run after a bus once you have caught it" You are the bus and she thinks she has got you all sorted out and she can relax now. Do not be a chump and let this woman condem you to a life of frustration, walk away now while you still can, you have been played long enough. With an attitude like "its boring. overrated and dirty" live is only ever going to get worse.
I think the problem today is that nobody gets married, you clearly rate sex as the most important thing in a relationship and perhaps your gf just feels used.
There has to be more to life than sex surely ?? How come you have not proposed marriage yet ?
She's probably seeing someone! She needs MORE THAN SEX to survive this relationship!
5 years, you're just hanging on by a thread. . . . I have a feeling it's ONLY SEX you're interested in. Have you even told her YOU LOVE HER? What part do you love about her? Sex?
C'mon there's more THAN THAT! I need her side of the story. I can't believe you! There's your side, there's her side, and there's ONE SIDE. The judge or counselor.
I'm it!
I think she is just bored of the same thing over and over. Try searching the internet for some new tricks or buy a sex toy to lend a hand.
Now she is 27 and she wants your relationship to end with marriage, it is a high time for her to make a family but you wanted sex without any legal committments
Ask her what she wants in the bed room, and how she like it insted of just give it to her the way you think she wants it if that dont work it very possible shes cheatting. some women would love a man like you. ijs.
Do you know how to make love to a woman or only how to have sex? No wonder she's fed up with it. There's nothing worse than a man with no idea about what turns a woman on pawing at you and whining about wanting sex. You are 29 not 15. Get educated before you lose her.
It is simply, you are being gross for her to accept. Now, stop showing sexual interests so often and focus on love (relationship) with her. She thinks you are pervert now so you should change.
try something to surprise her, if ur realy into this relationship, try proposing her, and literally, " surprise her" <
She may be depressed. You are 27&29. You dated 5 years. She's probably ready for marriage by now, but you only seem to care about sex. You say you love her. If you loved her sex wouldn't worry you, it wouldn't give you reason to think of calling things off. Try being a real boyfriend, do things together like go for walks, the movies, a museum, try an art project together, go on a group date, a vacation together. Cook dinner with her. Do things you both love to do. She like art, photography, singing, you guys should go do that, have a karaoke night! And do some things you like as well, go see a sports game, a match, or go bowling or ice skating or Roller skate.
You are far too focused on sex. A healthy relationship isn't focused on sex its about being yourselves and loving the other. Protect each other like parents, tease each other like siblings, trust each other like best friends and love one another the way only lovers can.
Cool it with the sex, and also go see a doctor, you might have a high sex drive that she just can't keep up with. But more importantly see a counselor. This isn't healthy. If you really love her you'll take this advice.
My friend your thinking is completely wrong. Your in relation for 5 years then the first question is raising why you didn't get married. This sudden changes is very common as per my personal experience. Me and my wife did sex once in a month or sometime it took 3 months of distance to have sex. But it doesn't mean that she dis like me or try to avoid me.
I try to explain you: - It was just like, Suppose your eating a same dish continuously till hole month or year. What will happen after sometime you hat that dish and try something else for change of test.
So this is the fact that you did not give any space to you relationship to build up.In your relation You give first priority to the sex only. But you forget to respect your relationship.
I hope now you understand what mistakes you may don.
↑↑↑↑↑↑"A year and a half ago, I was just about to give up on Internet dating...although I had met several men that I have the highest respect for,none seemed to be real serious in persueing a long distance relationship.
A elationship with a guy that I had met on the Interest had just ended and I had gotten vry badly hurt....I told myself, time that I would give Internet dating a chance, however, a few days later, I received and email from a gentlement and we began corresponding for a few months...We got together April 14th, 2013 and we are now getting married on the 19th of August.
I guess the old saying is true...Never give up trying. I met the most wonderful man I have ever know....
Since it seemed to happen gradually, I wonder if she is depressed or if she has a health issue that might lower her libido. If it is boring, you two should spice it up a little. Find out what it is that entices her and bring it on. Unless there is something that you enjoy that she does not, you may have to compromise. It sounds like it is reaching extremes if you are sleeping in different rooms, so sounds like to me, you need to move on this pretty quickly and reign that sex life back into an excitement stage. Best of luck to you!!
I think you need to talk to her rationally. If she just lost her sex drive, she might need medical attention, as this isn't normal.
If she likes sex, but sex with you is boring or dirty (kind of opposites, actually), then maybe she needs to talk to you about what you can both do so she can enjoy it more.
If it's neither of those and either you have different sex drives or she's just not interested in sex with you, then I'm afraid you don't have a future.
You need to find out if she's willing to work on these issues, or if she just thinks it's something you'll need to deal with, in which case you need to part ways.
The purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you are compatible with someone. When you find out that you are incompatible in one or more significant ways, it's time to end that relationship. Clearly, you two are sexually incompatible.
PS - The change was NOT sudden. You had good sex for two years, and it's been in decline for THREE years. Three years is not sudden.
Don't sweat it! Have drink, check out some naughty sites from the Sex Dating Directory and find someone who's more than willing to have sex. If she finds out you can always tell her that you have needs like everyone else.
How important is sex to you? It is clear that over those three years (agree with Pick This that this is not sudden) her sex drive has changed and yours has not. You need to sit down and get to the bottom of this. If she is not interested you need to decide if you would be happy with less sex but be with her or leave her and find someone more sexually compatible.
There is an old saying that "you do not run after a bus once you have caught it" You are the bus and she thinks she has got you all sorted out and she can relax now. Do not be a chump and let this woman condem you to a life of frustration, walk away now while you still can, you have been played long enough. With an attitude like "its boring. overrated and dirty" live is only ever going to get worse.
I think the problem today is that nobody gets married, you clearly rate sex as the most important thing in a relationship and perhaps your gf just feels used.
There has to be more to life than sex surely ?? How come you have not proposed marriage yet ?
She's probably seeing someone! She needs MORE THAN SEX to survive this relationship!
5 years, you're just hanging on by a thread. . . . I have a feeling it's ONLY SEX you're interested in. Have you even told her YOU LOVE HER? What part do you love about her? Sex?
C'mon there's more THAN THAT! I need her side of the story. I can't believe you! There's your side, there's her side, and there's ONE SIDE. The judge or counselor.
I'm it!
I think she is just bored of the same thing over and over. Try searching the internet for some new tricks or buy a sex toy to lend a hand.
Now she is 27 and she wants your relationship to end with marriage, it is a high time for her to make a family but you wanted sex without any legal committments
Ask her what she wants in the bed room, and how she like it insted of just give it to her the way you think she wants it if that dont work it very possible shes cheatting. some women would love a man like you. ijs.
Do you know how to make love to a woman or only how to have sex? No wonder she's fed up with it. There's nothing worse than a man with no idea about what turns a woman on pawing at you and whining about wanting sex. You are 29 not 15. Get educated before you lose her.
It is simply, you are being gross for her to accept. Now, stop showing sexual interests so often and focus on love (relationship) with her. She thinks you are pervert now so you should change.
try something to surprise her, if ur realy into this relationship, try proposing her, and literally, " surprise her" <
Is it dumb that I deleted all my social media?
It's exactly what i plan to do tomorrow. I am sick of all the social media because all it does is waste time and i think.. well does it make me happy? and the answer is no if anything it makes me more miserable. Too many people waste their lives on these sites, and at the end of it half of it is edited and fake anyway, and who cares if it makes us unpopular? to have a life away from facebook?! these sites won't be around forever it's the "current" obsession which frankly is sad, isolating and i can't see how it benefits anyone so i say do what you want to do, as i will, and i reckon we'll be far better off for it!
Bro I feel the same way except I never got social media but it does seem like you have to have it to be cool and I agree that I wish I could take my parents lives whenever you physically walk up to a girl and ask her out instead of asking someone via text or etc. honestly do want you want to do, that's what I do, I don't think it's dumb that you did that, as long as your ok with it, You'll be fine
You don't have to use social media. To answer your question, it's your choice what you want to do with your life, so only you will realize if you made a mistake, or not.
Honestly I think you made the right choice, and no you won't become unpopular, you have to keep a balance between social networks and your daily life, at times sites can be useful if used with great caution. But these sites, known as social networking Web sites, also have the potential for being destructive. They can expose a person to bad associations. (1 Cor. 15:33).
What you should know. If you are not careful, your profile information, photos, status updates (short messages to everyone on your list of friends), and comments (your replies to others’ status updates) could reveal too much. For example, they might reveal such things as where you live, when you are (and are not) at home, where you work, or where you go to school. Your address along with a brief post such as, “We leave for vacation tomorrow!” is enough to tell a thief where and when to strike.
Other details—for instance, your e-mail address, your date of birth, or your phone number—could leave you open to harassment, bullying, or identity theft. Yet, many people readily divulge such information on their social networking page.
People tend to forget that once they post something online, it is in the public domain. Even if they specify that their status updates are to be shared with “Friends Only,” they have no control over what those friends might do with the information. Really, anything posted on a social network should be viewed as public or as material that can easily be made public.
Bottom line, A woman named Kim sums it up well. “If you are mindful of what you are doing,” she says, “you can maintain a measure of privacy on a social network. It doesn’t lead to trouble unless you let it.”
if u become unpopular and lose friends because of this 2 things could happen. 1, you care enough that your unpopular that maybe u should be a tool and use social media like that because your the type of person that needs "those" kinds of friends.
2. u lose friends and realize you dont need those kind of people in ur life, you realize being unpopular is actually better for your mindframe self health.
fck instagram and snapchat n stuff. I only use facebook to keep in touch with relatives.. AND I BARELY WANNA TALK TO THEM!
I've never had a social media account accept for YouTube and this. I had plenty of good friends. Yes it's sometimes inconvenient when things happen and you don't know about them but unless you have horrible friends, I'm pretty sure it wont damage your relationship with them.
THIS IS NOT DUMB. I did this too a while back and I ended up focusing more in school and raising my grades up as well as doing more productive things. It's also okay to have social media, but you have to make sure to know when enough is enough
In all honesty, I think things like facebook cause more problems than they are worth. I think that's a great idea and you get an attagirl! for having some better than average smarts. Go for it and congrats!
GO FOR IT, DUDE !!! Social media is just a bunch of boring people talking about their boring, day-to-day "activities." You can do better! Read a book! Even better: learn how to WRITE a book!
deleting all your social media is the smartest thing you did.
now, unlike all your dumb zombie peers, youll be able to have a normal conversation with people instead of staring at your phone all day like an idiot.
I wish I was brave enough to do this. I hate social media but people think there's something weird about you if you don't use it.
no, good for you! way to be a leader and not a follower. In fact I think it will make you look cooler, if anyone asks why you don't have one tell them you have a life!
Nope it is not dumb at all , I maybe 25 but what you are doing it is very wise I promise you life does get easier with out it . <
Bro I feel the same way except I never got social media but it does seem like you have to have it to be cool and I agree that I wish I could take my parents lives whenever you physically walk up to a girl and ask her out instead of asking someone via text or etc. honestly do want you want to do, that's what I do, I don't think it's dumb that you did that, as long as your ok with it, You'll be fine
You don't have to use social media. To answer your question, it's your choice what you want to do with your life, so only you will realize if you made a mistake, or not.
Honestly I think you made the right choice, and no you won't become unpopular, you have to keep a balance between social networks and your daily life, at times sites can be useful if used with great caution. But these sites, known as social networking Web sites, also have the potential for being destructive. They can expose a person to bad associations. (1 Cor. 15:33).
What you should know. If you are not careful, your profile information, photos, status updates (short messages to everyone on your list of friends), and comments (your replies to others’ status updates) could reveal too much. For example, they might reveal such things as where you live, when you are (and are not) at home, where you work, or where you go to school. Your address along with a brief post such as, “We leave for vacation tomorrow!” is enough to tell a thief where and when to strike.
Other details—for instance, your e-mail address, your date of birth, or your phone number—could leave you open to harassment, bullying, or identity theft. Yet, many people readily divulge such information on their social networking page.
People tend to forget that once they post something online, it is in the public domain. Even if they specify that their status updates are to be shared with “Friends Only,” they have no control over what those friends might do with the information. Really, anything posted on a social network should be viewed as public or as material that can easily be made public.
Bottom line, A woman named Kim sums it up well. “If you are mindful of what you are doing,” she says, “you can maintain a measure of privacy on a social network. It doesn’t lead to trouble unless you let it.”
if u become unpopular and lose friends because of this 2 things could happen. 1, you care enough that your unpopular that maybe u should be a tool and use social media like that because your the type of person that needs "those" kinds of friends.
2. u lose friends and realize you dont need those kind of people in ur life, you realize being unpopular is actually better for your mindframe self health.
fck instagram and snapchat n stuff. I only use facebook to keep in touch with relatives.. AND I BARELY WANNA TALK TO THEM!
I've never had a social media account accept for YouTube and this. I had plenty of good friends. Yes it's sometimes inconvenient when things happen and you don't know about them but unless you have horrible friends, I'm pretty sure it wont damage your relationship with them.
THIS IS NOT DUMB. I did this too a while back and I ended up focusing more in school and raising my grades up as well as doing more productive things. It's also okay to have social media, but you have to make sure to know when enough is enough
In all honesty, I think things like facebook cause more problems than they are worth. I think that's a great idea and you get an attagirl! for having some better than average smarts. Go for it and congrats!
GO FOR IT, DUDE !!! Social media is just a bunch of boring people talking about their boring, day-to-day "activities." You can do better! Read a book! Even better: learn how to WRITE a book!
deleting all your social media is the smartest thing you did.
now, unlike all your dumb zombie peers, youll be able to have a normal conversation with people instead of staring at your phone all day like an idiot.
I wish I was brave enough to do this. I hate social media but people think there's something weird about you if you don't use it.
no, good for you! way to be a leader and not a follower. In fact I think it will make you look cooler, if anyone asks why you don't have one tell them you have a life!
Nope it is not dumb at all , I maybe 25 but what you are doing it is very wise I promise you life does get easier with out it . <
Do you know of any Yahoo Users that are about to get married in real life ..?
No, I do not know of any Yahoo Users that are about to get married in real life. do you know?
Yes i recieved an email from a very beautiful contact informing me that they will be getting married on the 2nd of November to another user of this site ...
I will reveal the name of the user once contacts and friends have answered this question and they can then edit their answer to wish OUR FRIENDS all the very best in their new life together....
Rather than getting married on YA? Now that is a wedding I'd like to go to. I'd buy a cyber hat and everything.
I don't know those users but I feel so happy for them ! That's a great news !!! So nice to see some people make long distance relationship work!!! Guys god bless you all !!! Wish u all the best !!! Good luck!!!! Hope you have a VERY HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE !!!!! xxxxx
summer and her secret Bf ...yesterday she whispered his name in my ear but warrior was playing loud music so I couldn't hear anything...silly warrior ..wanna seriously spank him now ;p
Or may be
Keen and Meghana :)
Gary and Vampirlina
Ali girl and I forgot his user name ..he was my contact in previous account
Along came holly and y!so serious
T- Rex and Black shadow
:)
Or if no one is getting married then what do you think about us captain ...lol ;p
Jk
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Hey Priya ....I can’t believe the big day is actually here. I’m so happy for you both, as are all who know you. Many wishes that you’ll always be as happy as you are today sis..
Feeling so much joy to hear this from Captain ..Congratulations Sis :)
Omg, what's with all the suspense now! Is it Priya's wedding?! Lol, I don't know the groom though :))
I'm not sure if I know them, but would love to know who they are...can't think of any considering the replies you've given others so far.
I'll edit my answer if I remember :)
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Dear Beautiful Priya,
So happy for you, girl! Showers of blessings and wishes for you! May you have a Happy Wedded Life! ❤️
I'm married in real life, but have been "separated" for a few yrs.-(don't get married unless you truly feel you'll be happy for all 'eternity!')
Not so far,but I know a few who have already my friend,
After being Informed,are very good friend Priya is,and I'm sure you with me wish Her all the Happiness in the world,and may She have a long and happy life.
i think its just a co-incidence that 'priyanka nd Waverider' are getting married april 2015...nd priyanka's engagment was over last 2 months back.....she is busy with my jeeju ...:))
am actually very angry on priya...x:(...she call me her best sis..but never disclosed anything about this.....am gonna fight with her...
its really beautiful to watch when long relations work out...nd i wish them 'all the happiness all their life...if its someone frm online then its gonna be superb ..bcoz the couple i've seen personally 'priyanka nd waverider are the best couple till now ..they work out their relations in a very matured way..they put up their 100% into it..:)
good luck priya nd *****
good luck my sis priyanka nd waverider...
now am wondering 'priya' name is lucky...:))
i have a hint who is her honewala...:p
Do you mean people who met each other on this forum and then in real life? Wow I'd my self love to know about that!
That's Priya. She mailed me on Tuesday. I'm sooooooo happy about it. And this means I'm gonna get a soul-bro-in-law :D
Yep. My lovely wifey and her fella..
Congrats to Priya and her man. I wish them all the best on their big day and their life together :))
@Priya - Where's my invitation to the wedding? ;)
yea Plain old Shahhida was about to marry that time she left...yes she is happy with him now!& yes 1 guy did married & posted a Q & we all wished him!only 2 guys who's marriage happened in front of my eyes!:)
me, no but i expect if i had any time to browse i'd find quite a few recognisable names, especially those who don't mention or refer to the yahoo factor. wedding album pages and websites - not yahoo recognisable.
idk but let me guess
Vampirelina & Gary the Alien
Sonia and Obvious
Rock N Roll & some secret guy nobody knows,lol
TyRANNIX and Black Shadow
Along came holly & Y!so serious
Summer Rain and i don't know who is her BF
because only these folk's relationship sounds serious
Congratz Priya my amazing friend- I wish you a great year and a wonderful time ahead, <
Yes i recieved an email from a very beautiful contact informing me that they will be getting married on the 2nd of November to another user of this site ...
I will reveal the name of the user once contacts and friends have answered this question and they can then edit their answer to wish OUR FRIENDS all the very best in their new life together....
Rather than getting married on YA? Now that is a wedding I'd like to go to. I'd buy a cyber hat and everything.
I don't know those users but I feel so happy for them ! That's a great news !!! So nice to see some people make long distance relationship work!!! Guys god bless you all !!! Wish u all the best !!! Good luck!!!! Hope you have a VERY HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE !!!!! xxxxx
summer and her secret Bf ...yesterday she whispered his name in my ear but warrior was playing loud music so I couldn't hear anything...silly warrior ..wanna seriously spank him now ;p
Or may be
Keen and Meghana :)
Gary and Vampirlina
Ali girl and I forgot his user name ..he was my contact in previous account
Along came holly and y!so serious
T- Rex and Black shadow
:)
Or if no one is getting married then what do you think about us captain ...lol ;p
Jk
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Hey Priya ....I can’t believe the big day is actually here. I’m so happy for you both, as are all who know you. Many wishes that you’ll always be as happy as you are today sis..
Feeling so much joy to hear this from Captain ..Congratulations Sis :)
Omg, what's with all the suspense now! Is it Priya's wedding?! Lol, I don't know the groom though :))
I'm not sure if I know them, but would love to know who they are...can't think of any considering the replies you've given others so far.
I'll edit my answer if I remember :)
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Dear Beautiful Priya,
So happy for you, girl! Showers of blessings and wishes for you! May you have a Happy Wedded Life! ❤️
I'm married in real life, but have been "separated" for a few yrs.-(don't get married unless you truly feel you'll be happy for all 'eternity!')
Not so far,but I know a few who have already my friend,
After being Informed,are very good friend Priya is,and I'm sure you with me wish Her all the Happiness in the world,and may She have a long and happy life.
i think its just a co-incidence that 'priyanka nd Waverider' are getting married april 2015...nd priyanka's engagment was over last 2 months back.....she is busy with my jeeju ...:))
am actually very angry on priya...x:(...she call me her best sis..but never disclosed anything about this.....am gonna fight with her...
its really beautiful to watch when long relations work out...nd i wish them 'all the happiness all their life...if its someone frm online then its gonna be superb ..bcoz the couple i've seen personally 'priyanka nd waverider are the best couple till now ..they work out their relations in a very matured way..they put up their 100% into it..:)
good luck priya nd *****
good luck my sis priyanka nd waverider...
now am wondering 'priya' name is lucky...:))
i have a hint who is her honewala...:p
Do you mean people who met each other on this forum and then in real life? Wow I'd my self love to know about that!
That's Priya. She mailed me on Tuesday. I'm sooooooo happy about it. And this means I'm gonna get a soul-bro-in-law :D
Yep. My lovely wifey and her fella..
Congrats to Priya and her man. I wish them all the best on their big day and their life together :))
@Priya - Where's my invitation to the wedding? ;)
yea Plain old Shahhida was about to marry that time she left...yes she is happy with him now!& yes 1 guy did married & posted a Q & we all wished him!only 2 guys who's marriage happened in front of my eyes!:)
me, no but i expect if i had any time to browse i'd find quite a few recognisable names, especially those who don't mention or refer to the yahoo factor. wedding album pages and websites - not yahoo recognisable.
idk but let me guess
Vampirelina & Gary the Alien
Sonia and Obvious
Rock N Roll & some secret guy nobody knows,lol
TyRANNIX and Black Shadow
Along came holly & Y!so serious
Summer Rain and i don't know who is her BF
because only these folk's relationship sounds serious
Congratz Priya my amazing friend- I wish you a great year and a wonderful time ahead, <
I want to sleep with my mom. PLEASE DONT JUDGE?
Not judging but I think you are not getting the whole picture here. You want to sleep with your mom, sure thing but does she feel the same way, you are her son and sleeping with you won't help her get back into the dating game.
I'm judging you. Harshly. Very harshly. P.s. Seek a therapist, book yourself into a mental hospital and do the world a favour
I love my mom to death-but not in a "sexual-way!" If you want sex that bad-just "jerk off" or go to the 'bars' & find your 'match'-(never fool around with family!)
AHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH gd one m8, but remember even if u really do love her she'll die earlier than u and you'll be left with mr hand. ur mom probably wouldn't accept anyway, incezt is ****** up : p
Please don't judge? It's just wrong. Lions and tigers and feral dogs don't tolerate that behaviour because there's so much wrong with it. Ew. <
I'm judging you. Harshly. Very harshly. P.s. Seek a therapist, book yourself into a mental hospital and do the world a favour
I love my mom to death-but not in a "sexual-way!" If you want sex that bad-just "jerk off" or go to the 'bars' & find your 'match'-(never fool around with family!)
AHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH gd one m8, but remember even if u really do love her she'll die earlier than u and you'll be left with mr hand. ur mom probably wouldn't accept anyway, incezt is ****** up : p
Please don't judge? It's just wrong. Lions and tigers and feral dogs don't tolerate that behaviour because there's so much wrong with it. Ew. <
Feeling depressed?! HELP ME!!?
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Okay, let me be as frank and to the point as the question. People on here are gonna give you all kinds of advice and attention and try to comb your ego a bit to make you feel better or stop you from topping yourself. When it comes down to it realise this:
1) Everyone is **** at socialising. It's all made up. Even the most confident speaker in the world is just saying what people want to hear. If they didn't people wouldn't like listening to them. And - no matter how much they will say otherwise, people often listen to said people with a smile and in their head are thinking ' you are such a c***'
2) People who are worth anything will talk to you and hang out with you because they want to and they enjoy your company - this is a two way street. Act like an a*** and people won't want to see you, crack a joke and don't take yourself too seriously - come up with an interesting convo etc and people will be like ' this person's okay ya know :-)
3) Depression is a psychological bully - and worst of all it's bullying yourself. Sometimes you just have to give that big old ogre a bit of a BACK OFF! and the best way I have found to do that is do something completely random. Last time I felt low I did something daft - I flicked Ice cream off a spoon at targets - OUTSIDE! (I know, mad right?) But you know what it really entertained me and I had a chuckle at it. Best part was my sis came home and caught me (shes younger than me - 23) and she joined in too. - surround yourself with people who actually mean something to you and have fun. Don't let others get you down and tell that mind bully to **** *** :-)
I won't go into scientific detail like these other answers because knowing that your feelings are based on hormones doesn't really help whatsoever. All i can say is that life is pretty messed up. It might be really bad for you right now but it won't stay like this. It's going to get better, but only if you actually try in life. If you just lay around all day being depressed it's not gonna help. You should try to pay attention in school and try to make some new friends because clearly those friends aren't good for you if they all just lose contact with you like that.
Hey, let me give you some real, true advice and I hope that you take heed because I've been there and done that. I am a 37 yr. old female and when I was 14 I became depressed. I was boo-hooing because I didn't have any friends, felt like no one liked me, I had no personality for anyone to like me, on and on and on. But as I got older I realized the friends I thought were my friends we're really not. So I stopped using the 'Friend' word lightly. Through time I hope that you will realize what a true friend is. Even to this day I don't consider myself as having friends, other than my husband 'he is my true friend'. I say now I have associates. Things will get better trust me. It may not seem good right now but things will get better. Spend time finding yourself, what are you good at, what do you love to do. Stop looking on the outside for others to make you feel good about yourself but it's a good time to start looking within. Trust me cause people are funny they will lift you up one day and the next be tearing you down. So you have to look inside and find your inner beauty, so no matter what goes on on the outside you have that firm foundation of knowing who you truly are. Feelings change, remember that, sometimes you have to encourage yourself, find what you love to do, you may meet friends that way, at least you will have something in common with them. I'm a mental health advocate, try to find a support group for teens who are feeling depressed. It always helps to talk to someone. Don't hold this in. And lastly, some people (friends) are only in your life for a season and when that season is up it is time for you to move on.
What helped me out of depression when I was your age was to listen closely to your own thoughts. When you hear an untruth...like you aren't good at anything you try....this can't be true because of the word 'everything'..nothing is all inclusive, so this is a lie. Replace this with I am good at some things... Be yourself and don't worry if others like you or not..some will, others wont, but this is not your burden to carry..it is theirs. Be yourself, don't try to impress anyone...then the ppl who do finally notice you will be attracted to the real you, not some persona you put on like a mask...you can't kiip the act up..so just BE YOU. ...when you focus on what is 'right' in your life this will attract more 'right' to you. There is magic in positive thoughts.
The best advice I can give you is to do you first clearly they aren't friends because they wouldn't act that way if they where even if they say they are whose got time for DAT **** anyway go to the pep rallies go to the dances at school enjoy it while your their its not always going to be this easy for you and if you think its hard now wait until your in the real world and its only a year or two away now if you need to talk hit me up been Thur some of the same **** your groin thur
Advice is subjective to the individual's experience, and has little baring on your own, because we're all biased toward ourselves. What you need to do is figure out what YOU would do about your situation. It's the most difficult thing, but it is also the most rewarding. I apologize, but life has no cheat sheet. All we can do is what we believe is right in the moment and hope we make the best decision. Always try to be the best person you know how to be. You will stumble, you will have regrets, and you will fall flat on your face. But how do we learn not to fail? By failing. By being miserable we learn how to dig ourselves out of it. Everyone has a rough time growing up, and many will tell you their stories, but the thing nobody thinks to tell you is to make sure that you are living YOUR life, and not somebody else's. It is good to hear other people's perspective on your situation, but don't let them decide what to do for you. Get advice to make an educated guess, so to speak. Go forward and be the best person you can possibly be. You are going to fail most the time. You are going to succeed sometimes, and they are going to feel great. Then you'll learn how to fail less, and become that great person you've been trying to be. This is what happens to everyone while growing up.
Always be humble, but don't let anyone force you to eat crow. Nobody should expect a 16 year old to know what they're doing in almost anything, but they will pressure you to do good. You have to separate yourself from the criticism and learn to take it with a grain of salt (meaning you should view each criticism as a wonderful opportunity to better yourself, and add your own spice - or positivity - to it to make it easier to learn from). Like I said, there's no cheat sheet for life. You have to fail a lot sometimes. We all do. We always will. That's just how life is. We all hang on for the love and support of those around us, and eventually for the affection of another. These are things that make it worth it in the end. If you do as I suggested and be the best person you know to be then you will find ways to make good friends and KEEP them, and they will love you, and you will love them for it. Always be positive, always work hard, and most of all always learn from your failures. You seem very self-aware, so I have a huge vote of confidence for you. You will be a great person one day if you keep trying. Please keep trying. The world needs great people.
Side note, to compare this to myself: Whenever I feel I'm walking into a hopeless situation where I'll probably embarrass myself I imagine it cenimatically. The world is crumbling around me, all hope is lost, but I'm still standing and ready to face my demise. It's hyperbole, of course, but do you know what happens when I imagine myself as the comic book hero, or the matyr for my my own life? I do awesome things, and amaze myself. Look to your favorite fictional heroes and imagine how they felt in those most hopeless situations where there was no choice. It's hyperbole and metaphor about life, and the challenges we face in it. Take comfort in knowing you're not the only one that feels that way, and believe that you have the power to make it right. I often feel the same way you're describing right now, so that is why I'm taking so much care in answering. haha
Everyone has a bad day when they feel alone. Make an effort to say hi to someone at school you've never met. You might be surprised where it takes you. But above all remember other people can never validate who you are better than you can. Know in your heart that you've always had significant self-worth a fact that is constantly being reinforced by many of the complimentary responses to your post.
When I was 16 i felt pretty shitty about this stuff but you will learn how to deal with it as u get older and when ur old enough you can move to a place hwere there are like minded people and you will not have to try too hard to make friends. Just focus on things that make you happy say art or music because this will make u an interesting person i the future. If u dont have a hobby try finding one on the internet or get rlly into film or something and talk on forums. Always be open to new friendship.
My daughter is now 25 - but when she was 15 or 16 she said the very same thing to me. I was so worried about her and knew it was time for her to find new friends, people not from school or the same social group, so I looked around our local area. I found out that the Baptist church in our town ran a weekly youth group (they got together, shared a pizza and a game of pool etc - it was aimed at kids from about 16 to 21). Of course when I mentioned to this to her she said 'you must be joking, I'm not a bible basher'! So I contacted the group leader and explained the situation. They arranged for one of the girls in the group to call my daughter and invite her along. It changed her life!! No she hasn't converted to Christianity or taken up going to church regularly (although she did explore that option), but she met a group of fantastic young people who don't ***** or grudge and accepts everyone for who they are - and have loads of great fun social events. She went from being a miserable person to someone who radiated fun and laughter. She became really good friends with 3 or 4 girls in the group - all from very different backgrounds and has stayed in touch with them even now 10 years later. (some of the girls are now married, a few professional, one is a cleaner and only a one or two go to church now) My daughter now has a very successful career, but still says that joining this club and meeting these people - at a time when she (and some other club members) were feeling like social outcasts.
Could you ask your mum to look into this for you? If not, don't be embarrassed or ashamed to get in touch with local churches in your area (Baptist and Methodist tend to be really proactive at supporting young people). I can GUARANTEE that they will be friendly, warm and welcoming - so don't be afraid to ring or email them. Remember - this is just a low moment in your life. Try to imagine how you will be in ten years - maybe happily married, with a successful career, perhaps a baby or two in tow! Never give up on the misery you are feeling today. xxx
Look, this is normal for your age(our hormones are overactive at this age in life), life always gets better, you have to earn it. Focus on one day at a time, what makes you happy today. I listene to some positive music and moved all the furniture in my house. Sometimes you just neeed a change in surrounding and it can alter your mood. You cant be afraid to speak your mind no matter how stupid or daring it might be.I am 26 and went through alot of depression, if you dont take over your depression it will take you further and further into a endless pit. Be happy, start a journal and list all teh good things to happend to you that day or made you smile. If you do this long enough you will learn to see the positive and the negative shall pass. No one can help you escape but yourself. So lift yourself up and Make the best of it. Freinds are not going to pay your bills and most fo those people will be gone seperate ways once you go to college, The world will change for you just make it out of highschool.
Try joining a club you're interested in. That way you will meet lots of people like you with the same interests and it will be easier to make friends. I suggest a drama group, the type of people there are weird and wonderful, they are very friendly and won't judge you, but if you aren't into that sort of thing how about art, dance, cookery, martial arts or music? There are lots of others as well!
Hang in there and stay strong!
Do not depend on other people to make you happy. Find as many activities you are good at doing as possible and do them just because you can. It does not matter how simple they are as long as you feel okay with doing them and they are legal. You will naturally, meet others who enjoy the same activities. You might start by going to a place where people have the same values and belief systems as you have and you will have a few good friends in time. Keep in mind that everything in life changes, people come and people go but you are never alone as long as you are alive, fairly healthy and can look forward to tomorrow's activities. Get out there and make some good memories all by yourself. You will meet friends that way. Best wishes to you.
The most important thing to do at school is learn things that will help you later on in life. You are 16 so you have 60 or so years left to live and just a couple more in school. So you have plenty of time for friends but what you do for your time remaining in school is much more important. You might have some skills that you could develop and most people have the ability to do things that could lead to and happy life if they discover what they are good at and hone those skills. So find out what you are good at and use all of your mental and physical powers to become real good at whatever it is that can make you a success in life. When you are successful and happy it is easier to make friends than when you are depressed. If you are not sure what you might be good at there are counselors and aptitude tests to help you. You also might need some counseling for your depression.
My oldest is the same way. She has maybe one friend outside of the family, and this one friend blows her off all the time. She is depressed and she is now on meds for it and talks to someone on a regular basis. Sometimes all you need is to talk to someone, like a therapist, that doesn't' know you or your family to be able to see the light at the end of it all. I grew up depressed and my parents did not care enough to get me help. It has made it difficult for me as an adult somedays, and now I have 3 kids of my own. Talk to your parents and see if therapy is an option, or talk to a school counselor. The point is to talk to someone. If your "friends" aren't giving you the time of day, to bad for them. I was totally you growing up. I've had to learn to be ok with myself and how to be comfortable in my own skin and like who I am, even though family and others may not. good luck
Just remember you're only human. Not everyone you come across in your life will like you, nor stick with you till the end. One cannot be bad at socializing unless they don't socialize, what is good socializing anyways? Just smile! Have faith, think positive, be happy, talk more, try even harder! Never ever give up.
Have faith put all of your worries your fears everything in God's hands he will help you if you let him. Trust me. I was this way all through high School people picked on me called me freak threatned me and it drove me into depression but something awoke in me and I accepted Jesus into my life and ever since things slowly got better and now I'm happy. You can be too. Your not worthless you are a precious living breathing child of God and the God of the universe gave his one and only son for you because he loves you that much your not **** your not worthless you are royalty because you are a child of God let him help you and take away your troubles.
Hey girl!
Don't worry so much!
Don't be depressed!
You will find friends!That's for sure!
Just believe in your self and socialize :)
Everything will be cool :)
Also you can find social friends ,for example :)
Don't worry, we all feel like this sometimes. Just think about positive stuff throughout your days and that will help. Start socializing and find an in common interest with people who like the same things as you.
Don't worry about it your still young and you have lots of years to meet people and you have many things to look forward to one day you will have close awesome friends and you will wonder why did you ever worrt i went through the same thing now im in college and I feel way more confident and high school doesnt matter now.
Let me tell you something i have observed from my own life. No matter what you are going to lose friends but you can always make new ones. The only thing you can do is be yourself, its understandable if its hard for you to do that because you might be shy around people or are afraid of what they will think of you, the worst thing that can happen is that they wont like you. In which case you should not care. All that matters is you know who you are and who you want to be in life. If you spend your time trying to get people to like you by acting different just to fit in you will lose a lot more "friends". Just be yourself and you cant go wrong.
Why don't you try to enjoy of your own company? I've learnt to enjoy the company of myself and it feels good very good. You can spent the time for your self and learn to love yourself and learn a lot of things about yourself. So if your friends don't even try to hang on you let them go.
I was in a similar situation when I was a teenager. IT SUCKS. But hang in there, and you will get through it. It may seem impossible at the moment, but years from now you will look back at when you were 16 and it will seem insignificant.
Find a hobby to keep you and your mind occupied and off of the fact that you are depressed with yourself. In my opinion, a very helpful thing that you can do is to talk to other people suffering from depression. You are not alone and it is NOT impossible for you to get through this.
I wish you the best!
My advice, take a breath and step back. Don't try and get your old friends back, that ship has sailed. Try finding out more about you and what you like and then try and find people who like what you like or compliment you. If you don't find people like that at school, try facebook or twitter. Better yet, go out there and join a club or something. Never say never.
I fully sympathise. I too was in the same situation.. I still am!! Im 16years old no friends or anything, when I get a new hair colour EVERYONE judges, laughs etc.. its weird to explain isn't it? BUT I talked to a teacher, (my well being teacher) Counseller etc.. They refferd me to clubs outside of school full of friendly people!! I gained a hobby, confidence and friends :) Goodluck you can do it!!X <
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Okay, let me be as frank and to the point as the question. People on here are gonna give you all kinds of advice and attention and try to comb your ego a bit to make you feel better or stop you from topping yourself. When it comes down to it realise this:
1) Everyone is **** at socialising. It's all made up. Even the most confident speaker in the world is just saying what people want to hear. If they didn't people wouldn't like listening to them. And - no matter how much they will say otherwise, people often listen to said people with a smile and in their head are thinking ' you are such a c***'
2) People who are worth anything will talk to you and hang out with you because they want to and they enjoy your company - this is a two way street. Act like an a*** and people won't want to see you, crack a joke and don't take yourself too seriously - come up with an interesting convo etc and people will be like ' this person's okay ya know :-)
3) Depression is a psychological bully - and worst of all it's bullying yourself. Sometimes you just have to give that big old ogre a bit of a BACK OFF! and the best way I have found to do that is do something completely random. Last time I felt low I did something daft - I flicked Ice cream off a spoon at targets - OUTSIDE! (I know, mad right?) But you know what it really entertained me and I had a chuckle at it. Best part was my sis came home and caught me (shes younger than me - 23) and she joined in too. - surround yourself with people who actually mean something to you and have fun. Don't let others get you down and tell that mind bully to **** *** :-)
I won't go into scientific detail like these other answers because knowing that your feelings are based on hormones doesn't really help whatsoever. All i can say is that life is pretty messed up. It might be really bad for you right now but it won't stay like this. It's going to get better, but only if you actually try in life. If you just lay around all day being depressed it's not gonna help. You should try to pay attention in school and try to make some new friends because clearly those friends aren't good for you if they all just lose contact with you like that.
Hey, let me give you some real, true advice and I hope that you take heed because I've been there and done that. I am a 37 yr. old female and when I was 14 I became depressed. I was boo-hooing because I didn't have any friends, felt like no one liked me, I had no personality for anyone to like me, on and on and on. But as I got older I realized the friends I thought were my friends we're really not. So I stopped using the 'Friend' word lightly. Through time I hope that you will realize what a true friend is. Even to this day I don't consider myself as having friends, other than my husband 'he is my true friend'. I say now I have associates. Things will get better trust me. It may not seem good right now but things will get better. Spend time finding yourself, what are you good at, what do you love to do. Stop looking on the outside for others to make you feel good about yourself but it's a good time to start looking within. Trust me cause people are funny they will lift you up one day and the next be tearing you down. So you have to look inside and find your inner beauty, so no matter what goes on on the outside you have that firm foundation of knowing who you truly are. Feelings change, remember that, sometimes you have to encourage yourself, find what you love to do, you may meet friends that way, at least you will have something in common with them. I'm a mental health advocate, try to find a support group for teens who are feeling depressed. It always helps to talk to someone. Don't hold this in. And lastly, some people (friends) are only in your life for a season and when that season is up it is time for you to move on.
What helped me out of depression when I was your age was to listen closely to your own thoughts. When you hear an untruth...like you aren't good at anything you try....this can't be true because of the word 'everything'..nothing is all inclusive, so this is a lie. Replace this with I am good at some things... Be yourself and don't worry if others like you or not..some will, others wont, but this is not your burden to carry..it is theirs. Be yourself, don't try to impress anyone...then the ppl who do finally notice you will be attracted to the real you, not some persona you put on like a mask...you can't kiip the act up..so just BE YOU. ...when you focus on what is 'right' in your life this will attract more 'right' to you. There is magic in positive thoughts.
The best advice I can give you is to do you first clearly they aren't friends because they wouldn't act that way if they where even if they say they are whose got time for DAT **** anyway go to the pep rallies go to the dances at school enjoy it while your their its not always going to be this easy for you and if you think its hard now wait until your in the real world and its only a year or two away now if you need to talk hit me up been Thur some of the same **** your groin thur
Advice is subjective to the individual's experience, and has little baring on your own, because we're all biased toward ourselves. What you need to do is figure out what YOU would do about your situation. It's the most difficult thing, but it is also the most rewarding. I apologize, but life has no cheat sheet. All we can do is what we believe is right in the moment and hope we make the best decision. Always try to be the best person you know how to be. You will stumble, you will have regrets, and you will fall flat on your face. But how do we learn not to fail? By failing. By being miserable we learn how to dig ourselves out of it. Everyone has a rough time growing up, and many will tell you their stories, but the thing nobody thinks to tell you is to make sure that you are living YOUR life, and not somebody else's. It is good to hear other people's perspective on your situation, but don't let them decide what to do for you. Get advice to make an educated guess, so to speak. Go forward and be the best person you can possibly be. You are going to fail most the time. You are going to succeed sometimes, and they are going to feel great. Then you'll learn how to fail less, and become that great person you've been trying to be. This is what happens to everyone while growing up.
Always be humble, but don't let anyone force you to eat crow. Nobody should expect a 16 year old to know what they're doing in almost anything, but they will pressure you to do good. You have to separate yourself from the criticism and learn to take it with a grain of salt (meaning you should view each criticism as a wonderful opportunity to better yourself, and add your own spice - or positivity - to it to make it easier to learn from). Like I said, there's no cheat sheet for life. You have to fail a lot sometimes. We all do. We always will. That's just how life is. We all hang on for the love and support of those around us, and eventually for the affection of another. These are things that make it worth it in the end. If you do as I suggested and be the best person you know to be then you will find ways to make good friends and KEEP them, and they will love you, and you will love them for it. Always be positive, always work hard, and most of all always learn from your failures. You seem very self-aware, so I have a huge vote of confidence for you. You will be a great person one day if you keep trying. Please keep trying. The world needs great people.
Side note, to compare this to myself: Whenever I feel I'm walking into a hopeless situation where I'll probably embarrass myself I imagine it cenimatically. The world is crumbling around me, all hope is lost, but I'm still standing and ready to face my demise. It's hyperbole, of course, but do you know what happens when I imagine myself as the comic book hero, or the matyr for my my own life? I do awesome things, and amaze myself. Look to your favorite fictional heroes and imagine how they felt in those most hopeless situations where there was no choice. It's hyperbole and metaphor about life, and the challenges we face in it. Take comfort in knowing you're not the only one that feels that way, and believe that you have the power to make it right. I often feel the same way you're describing right now, so that is why I'm taking so much care in answering. haha
Everyone has a bad day when they feel alone. Make an effort to say hi to someone at school you've never met. You might be surprised where it takes you. But above all remember other people can never validate who you are better than you can. Know in your heart that you've always had significant self-worth a fact that is constantly being reinforced by many of the complimentary responses to your post.
When I was 16 i felt pretty shitty about this stuff but you will learn how to deal with it as u get older and when ur old enough you can move to a place hwere there are like minded people and you will not have to try too hard to make friends. Just focus on things that make you happy say art or music because this will make u an interesting person i the future. If u dont have a hobby try finding one on the internet or get rlly into film or something and talk on forums. Always be open to new friendship.
My daughter is now 25 - but when she was 15 or 16 she said the very same thing to me. I was so worried about her and knew it was time for her to find new friends, people not from school or the same social group, so I looked around our local area. I found out that the Baptist church in our town ran a weekly youth group (they got together, shared a pizza and a game of pool etc - it was aimed at kids from about 16 to 21). Of course when I mentioned to this to her she said 'you must be joking, I'm not a bible basher'! So I contacted the group leader and explained the situation. They arranged for one of the girls in the group to call my daughter and invite her along. It changed her life!! No she hasn't converted to Christianity or taken up going to church regularly (although she did explore that option), but she met a group of fantastic young people who don't ***** or grudge and accepts everyone for who they are - and have loads of great fun social events. She went from being a miserable person to someone who radiated fun and laughter. She became really good friends with 3 or 4 girls in the group - all from very different backgrounds and has stayed in touch with them even now 10 years later. (some of the girls are now married, a few professional, one is a cleaner and only a one or two go to church now) My daughter now has a very successful career, but still says that joining this club and meeting these people - at a time when she (and some other club members) were feeling like social outcasts.
Could you ask your mum to look into this for you? If not, don't be embarrassed or ashamed to get in touch with local churches in your area (Baptist and Methodist tend to be really proactive at supporting young people). I can GUARANTEE that they will be friendly, warm and welcoming - so don't be afraid to ring or email them. Remember - this is just a low moment in your life. Try to imagine how you will be in ten years - maybe happily married, with a successful career, perhaps a baby or two in tow! Never give up on the misery you are feeling today. xxx
Look, this is normal for your age(our hormones are overactive at this age in life), life always gets better, you have to earn it. Focus on one day at a time, what makes you happy today. I listene to some positive music and moved all the furniture in my house. Sometimes you just neeed a change in surrounding and it can alter your mood. You cant be afraid to speak your mind no matter how stupid or daring it might be.I am 26 and went through alot of depression, if you dont take over your depression it will take you further and further into a endless pit. Be happy, start a journal and list all teh good things to happend to you that day or made you smile. If you do this long enough you will learn to see the positive and the negative shall pass. No one can help you escape but yourself. So lift yourself up and Make the best of it. Freinds are not going to pay your bills and most fo those people will be gone seperate ways once you go to college, The world will change for you just make it out of highschool.
Try joining a club you're interested in. That way you will meet lots of people like you with the same interests and it will be easier to make friends. I suggest a drama group, the type of people there are weird and wonderful, they are very friendly and won't judge you, but if you aren't into that sort of thing how about art, dance, cookery, martial arts or music? There are lots of others as well!
Hang in there and stay strong!
Do not depend on other people to make you happy. Find as many activities you are good at doing as possible and do them just because you can. It does not matter how simple they are as long as you feel okay with doing them and they are legal. You will naturally, meet others who enjoy the same activities. You might start by going to a place where people have the same values and belief systems as you have and you will have a few good friends in time. Keep in mind that everything in life changes, people come and people go but you are never alone as long as you are alive, fairly healthy and can look forward to tomorrow's activities. Get out there and make some good memories all by yourself. You will meet friends that way. Best wishes to you.
The most important thing to do at school is learn things that will help you later on in life. You are 16 so you have 60 or so years left to live and just a couple more in school. So you have plenty of time for friends but what you do for your time remaining in school is much more important. You might have some skills that you could develop and most people have the ability to do things that could lead to and happy life if they discover what they are good at and hone those skills. So find out what you are good at and use all of your mental and physical powers to become real good at whatever it is that can make you a success in life. When you are successful and happy it is easier to make friends than when you are depressed. If you are not sure what you might be good at there are counselors and aptitude tests to help you. You also might need some counseling for your depression.
My oldest is the same way. She has maybe one friend outside of the family, and this one friend blows her off all the time. She is depressed and she is now on meds for it and talks to someone on a regular basis. Sometimes all you need is to talk to someone, like a therapist, that doesn't' know you or your family to be able to see the light at the end of it all. I grew up depressed and my parents did not care enough to get me help. It has made it difficult for me as an adult somedays, and now I have 3 kids of my own. Talk to your parents and see if therapy is an option, or talk to a school counselor. The point is to talk to someone. If your "friends" aren't giving you the time of day, to bad for them. I was totally you growing up. I've had to learn to be ok with myself and how to be comfortable in my own skin and like who I am, even though family and others may not. good luck
Just remember you're only human. Not everyone you come across in your life will like you, nor stick with you till the end. One cannot be bad at socializing unless they don't socialize, what is good socializing anyways? Just smile! Have faith, think positive, be happy, talk more, try even harder! Never ever give up.
Have faith put all of your worries your fears everything in God's hands he will help you if you let him. Trust me. I was this way all through high School people picked on me called me freak threatned me and it drove me into depression but something awoke in me and I accepted Jesus into my life and ever since things slowly got better and now I'm happy. You can be too. Your not worthless you are a precious living breathing child of God and the God of the universe gave his one and only son for you because he loves you that much your not **** your not worthless you are royalty because you are a child of God let him help you and take away your troubles.
Hey girl!
Don't worry so much!
Don't be depressed!
You will find friends!That's for sure!
Just believe in your self and socialize :)
Everything will be cool :)
Also you can find social friends ,for example :)
Don't worry, we all feel like this sometimes. Just think about positive stuff throughout your days and that will help. Start socializing and find an in common interest with people who like the same things as you.
Don't worry about it your still young and you have lots of years to meet people and you have many things to look forward to one day you will have close awesome friends and you will wonder why did you ever worrt i went through the same thing now im in college and I feel way more confident and high school doesnt matter now.
Let me tell you something i have observed from my own life. No matter what you are going to lose friends but you can always make new ones. The only thing you can do is be yourself, its understandable if its hard for you to do that because you might be shy around people or are afraid of what they will think of you, the worst thing that can happen is that they wont like you. In which case you should not care. All that matters is you know who you are and who you want to be in life. If you spend your time trying to get people to like you by acting different just to fit in you will lose a lot more "friends". Just be yourself and you cant go wrong.
Why don't you try to enjoy of your own company? I've learnt to enjoy the company of myself and it feels good very good. You can spent the time for your self and learn to love yourself and learn a lot of things about yourself. So if your friends don't even try to hang on you let them go.
I was in a similar situation when I was a teenager. IT SUCKS. But hang in there, and you will get through it. It may seem impossible at the moment, but years from now you will look back at when you were 16 and it will seem insignificant.
Find a hobby to keep you and your mind occupied and off of the fact that you are depressed with yourself. In my opinion, a very helpful thing that you can do is to talk to other people suffering from depression. You are not alone and it is NOT impossible for you to get through this.
I wish you the best!
My advice, take a breath and step back. Don't try and get your old friends back, that ship has sailed. Try finding out more about you and what you like and then try and find people who like what you like or compliment you. If you don't find people like that at school, try facebook or twitter. Better yet, go out there and join a club or something. Never say never.
I fully sympathise. I too was in the same situation.. I still am!! Im 16years old no friends or anything, when I get a new hair colour EVERYONE judges, laughs etc.. its weird to explain isn't it? BUT I talked to a teacher, (my well being teacher) Counseller etc.. They refferd me to clubs outside of school full of friendly people!! I gained a hobby, confidence and friends :) Goodluck you can do it!!X <
What did you get for your Birthday ?
Happy Birthday Nina :]
Lol warrior u surprised me by remembering someone's birthday !!! That's nice !!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY sweet Nina !!! May all ur dreams come true !! Have a great day enjoy it !!! Maybe throw a party for us ? Lol... Wish u all the best good luck ! health ! happiness !!! And of course love :)
Happy Birthday Nina..
Time to get up from sleep pose in your display pic, give up dieting for a while and enjoy some cookies, toffies, and some junk food..grr
have a great day..
Lots of best wishes from friends on here,so Happy Birthday Nina,may you have a fantastic day,and remember,all your friends on here love you so much,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... us all.
Oh nice to know , me too wish her very happy joyful birthday , may god give all in the comforts of life and keeps her happy forever .
once again a very su∙bȧ u∙pan dhi∙nȧ∙yak vḗ∙va to nina ! <
Lol warrior u surprised me by remembering someone's birthday !!! That's nice !!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY sweet Nina !!! May all ur dreams come true !! Have a great day enjoy it !!! Maybe throw a party for us ? Lol... Wish u all the best good luck ! health ! happiness !!! And of course love :)
Happy Birthday Nina..
Time to get up from sleep pose in your display pic, give up dieting for a while and enjoy some cookies, toffies, and some junk food..grr
have a great day..
Lots of best wishes from friends on here,so Happy Birthday Nina,may you have a fantastic day,and remember,all your friends on here love you so much,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... us all.
Oh nice to know , me too wish her very happy joyful birthday , may god give all in the comforts of life and keeps her happy forever .
once again a very su∙bȧ u∙pan dhi∙nȧ∙yak vḗ∙va to nina ! <
Why do husbands cheatr on their wives?
I am sorry but a Real Husband would rather Die than cheat on his wife its because of men that do I haven't found a nice woman yet, every woman I have met seems to think all men are the same and women don't realize how much that hurts to be judged when were not the kind that would hurt a woman.
If he's full of himself and the type that thinks hes really sexy, it's an ego thing. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are, smart, nice, understanding he wants more attention and will do it regardless. It's like a millionare the money is his addiction and he wants more and more. Sometimes it's not you at all but I can tell you some of the reasons. Man doesnt feel appreciated anymore, tired of the nagging, bored, tired of the sex, he's not attracted to you anymore, and lastly you've been married and kids it probably sucked all the energy out of him.
Scientifically speaking male Homo sapiens are programmed to have millions of sperms in his gonads and this creates the sexual urge to procreate and reproduce as many of his species as possible by mating with as many female Home Sapiens as possible...However, due to various social obligations the male is more or less forced to remain un-satisfied by having sex with the same old female Home Sapien , all the time. This results in all kinds of neurotic problems and often leads to marital discord , drug addiction and alcohol addiction. In other words , only a sem-impotent person is fit for the arrangement known as Marriage. That is why Islam allows more than One wife for those who can support them financially and sexually . The movie idol , Dharmendra married Hema Malini , by converting to Islam. Nowadays. there is the concept called Living In whereby a man and Woe-man can live together without getting married as log as possible. However these two may have have sex with any one else who catches their fancy .No question of cheating....
Because it's just what humans do.
Females cheat on their husbands often also. I work in the Las Vegas clubs. Every weekend their is usually a group girls who are married who come without their husband. At least one or more of them cheat. They are just trying have a good time since it is Vegas you know.
Because most wives become disgusting, boring, fat, disinterested in sex, and a huge let down in life. Husbands should cheat on their wives so wives realize just how shitty they have let themselves become.
Lack of character. They don't value their marriage vows. They don't think that once this trust is broken it can never be restored.
It flatters their ego too. They're immature and would rather have a few hours of fun than keep their families together.
I never understood this. If they want to date then don't get married! Any and all blame falls on the cheater, not on the other spouse.
If your husband "truly loves you"-he wouldn't have cheated on you in the beginning,-that's a sign he may do it again, if you're deeply close to him & he's begging you to "forgive him" one last chance is the best thing, but if he does it again, it's over for good.
I think men cheat just for sex cause their wife isn't giving it up. I think a woman would cheat not only for sex but to feel affection and closeness that her husband's not giving her.
Different people cheat for different reasons. There is no one explanation. However, a common thread is a weakness in the moral fiber of the cheater.
Mine cheated because he thought he never would get caught, he didn't realize that some of his friends were also my friends too.And they were horrified that he would do such a thing to someone as sweet as me, considering I was taking care of his handicapped mother and two children under 6. He dumped me married her and then dumpped her and married someone else, I believe he was mentally sick.
Most times men cheat cause they ain't getting any sex from the one they are with or married too. Woman cheat cause they are lacking something in the marriage most times woman cheat to comfort a need or emotion. MEN CHEAT FOR SEX!!!
Because they can. Temptation, need, sometimes they even fall in love with someone else. If it was 'need', it's because their wives aren't supplying what they need.
Because men learn from a young age that they don't need to control their sexual urges. Women are constantly reminded not to be "sluts" or "whores", so they suppress their sexual urges. When women are unhappy in their relationship, they try harder or give up, they don't often cheat.
That being said, men don't always cheat and women sometime do cheat.
They claim there's something missing from the marriage, but really, men just have no respect for us ladies.
I think someone's mentality is responsible for this problem.Our social system that you have establish in our society as modernism is mainly responsible to create this mentality.This modernism has been eradicate our Wedding traditions day by day. As a results, those problem increasing day by day....It's not a problem for you only, it has became a social problem to us. We should bring back our Wedding traditions to solve the problem......
Best of luck..
questions like this are getting old and boring their is not a simple answer why people cheat because everybody is different and the people that do cheat on their partners do it for so many different reasons
if he does not get it at home when he needs it then he will get it elsewhere, just remember, you where to lazy to give it up so it is your fault, now he gets better stuff from the girl at work, now when he gets it from you he thinks of her and it is just a chore to him being with you,
I know some men cheat on their wife because she is never emotionally available for him and they sometimes feel neglected. Sometimes is lust, so it depends.
But even wife cheats on husbnad.
That woman, LARA above, is an idiot.
"men learn from a young age that they don't need to control their sexual urges"
My father never ONCE told me this advice. In fact no man ever tells his son this advice.
My god woman, you are stupid. <
If he's full of himself and the type that thinks hes really sexy, it's an ego thing. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are, smart, nice, understanding he wants more attention and will do it regardless. It's like a millionare the money is his addiction and he wants more and more. Sometimes it's not you at all but I can tell you some of the reasons. Man doesnt feel appreciated anymore, tired of the nagging, bored, tired of the sex, he's not attracted to you anymore, and lastly you've been married and kids it probably sucked all the energy out of him.
Scientifically speaking male Homo sapiens are programmed to have millions of sperms in his gonads and this creates the sexual urge to procreate and reproduce as many of his species as possible by mating with as many female Home Sapiens as possible...However, due to various social obligations the male is more or less forced to remain un-satisfied by having sex with the same old female Home Sapien , all the time. This results in all kinds of neurotic problems and often leads to marital discord , drug addiction and alcohol addiction. In other words , only a sem-impotent person is fit for the arrangement known as Marriage. That is why Islam allows more than One wife for those who can support them financially and sexually . The movie idol , Dharmendra married Hema Malini , by converting to Islam. Nowadays. there is the concept called Living In whereby a man and Woe-man can live together without getting married as log as possible. However these two may have have sex with any one else who catches their fancy .No question of cheating....
Because it's just what humans do.
Females cheat on their husbands often also. I work in the Las Vegas clubs. Every weekend their is usually a group girls who are married who come without their husband. At least one or more of them cheat. They are just trying have a good time since it is Vegas you know.
Because most wives become disgusting, boring, fat, disinterested in sex, and a huge let down in life. Husbands should cheat on their wives so wives realize just how shitty they have let themselves become.
Lack of character. They don't value their marriage vows. They don't think that once this trust is broken it can never be restored.
It flatters their ego too. They're immature and would rather have a few hours of fun than keep their families together.
I never understood this. If they want to date then don't get married! Any and all blame falls on the cheater, not on the other spouse.
If your husband "truly loves you"-he wouldn't have cheated on you in the beginning,-that's a sign he may do it again, if you're deeply close to him & he's begging you to "forgive him" one last chance is the best thing, but if he does it again, it's over for good.
I think men cheat just for sex cause their wife isn't giving it up. I think a woman would cheat not only for sex but to feel affection and closeness that her husband's not giving her.
Different people cheat for different reasons. There is no one explanation. However, a common thread is a weakness in the moral fiber of the cheater.
Mine cheated because he thought he never would get caught, he didn't realize that some of his friends were also my friends too.And they were horrified that he would do such a thing to someone as sweet as me, considering I was taking care of his handicapped mother and two children under 6. He dumped me married her and then dumpped her and married someone else, I believe he was mentally sick.
Most times men cheat cause they ain't getting any sex from the one they are with or married too. Woman cheat cause they are lacking something in the marriage most times woman cheat to comfort a need or emotion. MEN CHEAT FOR SEX!!!
Because they can. Temptation, need, sometimes they even fall in love with someone else. If it was 'need', it's because their wives aren't supplying what they need.
Because men learn from a young age that they don't need to control their sexual urges. Women are constantly reminded not to be "sluts" or "whores", so they suppress their sexual urges. When women are unhappy in their relationship, they try harder or give up, they don't often cheat.
That being said, men don't always cheat and women sometime do cheat.
They claim there's something missing from the marriage, but really, men just have no respect for us ladies.
I think someone's mentality is responsible for this problem.Our social system that you have establish in our society as modernism is mainly responsible to create this mentality.This modernism has been eradicate our Wedding traditions day by day. As a results, those problem increasing day by day....It's not a problem for you only, it has became a social problem to us. We should bring back our Wedding traditions to solve the problem......
Best of luck..
questions like this are getting old and boring their is not a simple answer why people cheat because everybody is different and the people that do cheat on their partners do it for so many different reasons
if he does not get it at home when he needs it then he will get it elsewhere, just remember, you where to lazy to give it up so it is your fault, now he gets better stuff from the girl at work, now when he gets it from you he thinks of her and it is just a chore to him being with you,
I know some men cheat on their wife because she is never emotionally available for him and they sometimes feel neglected. Sometimes is lust, so it depends.
But even wife cheats on husbnad.
That woman, LARA above, is an idiot.
"men learn from a young age that they don't need to control their sexual urges"
My father never ONCE told me this advice. In fact no man ever tells his son this advice.
My god woman, you are stupid. <
What should be the base of every relationship?
Maybe it sounds shallow, but the base of every romantic relationship is physical attraction. Now before you all thumbs-down me, keep reading first. The fact of the matter is if you simply are not attracted to someone, it doesn't matter if you have trust and communication and all the other answers people generally give...the relationship is not going to move past the friendship stage.
The very basic thing is when you're actually with that person is that you should be able to:
1-feel comfortable with him and he can actually put you at ease when you're with him while you're afraid.
2-feel free to talk about anything private or not,so you don't feel like keeping something from him.
3-to feel that he has the same wavelength that you have.....in other words that he can understand the way you think and it's better when you're age is close,while you can
4-that psychologically you can depend on him,that he is someone you miss when he is not here...if not then maybe you're not attached to him after all.
5-trust him and know him more than anyone.
6-fight with him many times and then make up.When both of you heat up the conversation and both of your voices become loud , it's just a matter of time that you act normal(as if nothing happened from 5 minutes ago...."we where just talking").
these are some common points that long relationships have.
Great question. Not every relationship are the same, though. So different bases for different relationships. However, most relationships will definitely benefit from a good pair of oven mitts, and some fuzzy earmuffs.
Trust.
It's the foundation on which every kind of relationship is made and built on. Honesty, communication, understanding and respect are all attributes that are important but if you can trust each other then all those other things will come naturally.
Trust and respect! Without these two components, you don't have a relationship, and often one or both of these are missing to make a relationship good or even better!
the base of a relationship should be:
Love
Understanding
Care
Intelligently solving problems
friendship is very important in a relationship too
I think both should have same taste & preferences,not in all activities but at least some,if both are totally different person,it could create some problems,
i don't know nothing about relationships but just taking a guess
;p
trust has got to be the foundation of any relationship,closely followed by honesty without either of these two principles what is the point in the first place ok.
There has to be some attraction there to start with, got to have a srtong bond between you.
Trust. Loyalty. Honesty.
most of all, you have got to understand that people do make mistakes and they cant read minds :)
You feel them,you hear them,understand them,they lift you,you just seem to know their heart like you have known them always,you truly feel the love with them,the facets are passionate,you love growing with them,walking life with them..Trust...you can trust in them,trust in the love they give you,trust them in all things it is just there in thought,word and deed. Without trust..there is nothing..love cannot grow without it..~*
Trust, and commitment. Love isn't always something you just earn. Sometimes you have to work at it. That's commitment. <
The very basic thing is when you're actually with that person is that you should be able to:
1-feel comfortable with him and he can actually put you at ease when you're with him while you're afraid.
2-feel free to talk about anything private or not,so you don't feel like keeping something from him.
3-to feel that he has the same wavelength that you have.....in other words that he can understand the way you think and it's better when you're age is close,while you can
4-that psychologically you can depend on him,that he is someone you miss when he is not here...if not then maybe you're not attached to him after all.
5-trust him and know him more than anyone.
6-fight with him many times and then make up.When both of you heat up the conversation and both of your voices become loud , it's just a matter of time that you act normal(as if nothing happened from 5 minutes ago...."we where just talking").
these are some common points that long relationships have.
Great question. Not every relationship are the same, though. So different bases for different relationships. However, most relationships will definitely benefit from a good pair of oven mitts, and some fuzzy earmuffs.
Trust.
It's the foundation on which every kind of relationship is made and built on. Honesty, communication, understanding and respect are all attributes that are important but if you can trust each other then all those other things will come naturally.
Trust and respect! Without these two components, you don't have a relationship, and often one or both of these are missing to make a relationship good or even better!
the base of a relationship should be:
Love
Understanding
Care
Intelligently solving problems
friendship is very important in a relationship too
I think both should have same taste & preferences,not in all activities but at least some,if both are totally different person,it could create some problems,
i don't know nothing about relationships but just taking a guess
;p
trust has got to be the foundation of any relationship,closely followed by honesty without either of these two principles what is the point in the first place ok.
There has to be some attraction there to start with, got to have a srtong bond between you.
Trust. Loyalty. Honesty.
most of all, you have got to understand that people do make mistakes and they cant read minds :)
You feel them,you hear them,understand them,they lift you,you just seem to know their heart like you have known them always,you truly feel the love with them,the facets are passionate,you love growing with them,walking life with them..Trust...you can trust in them,trust in the love they give you,trust them in all things it is just there in thought,word and deed. Without trust..there is nothing..love cannot grow without it..~*
Trust, and commitment. Love isn't always something you just earn. Sometimes you have to work at it. That's commitment. <
How many books do you read a year ?
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I work third shift and have a lot of downtime so... 2 a week? Sometimes I reread a book so if I count books I reread as just 1...I'd guess about 90 or so a year. <
I work third shift and have a lot of downtime so... 2 a week? Sometimes I reread a book so if I count books I reread as just 1...I'd guess about 90 or so a year. <
I have a English assignment and I forgot my book how do I get it online?
You forgot your book and only realised now? The night before it's due?
Sorry, but you're just going to have to tell the truth and take this as a learning curve. Nobody can help you if you don't even tell us what book it is, and we can't exactly go out, get the book from your school and deliver it to you ... you just have to learn to not procrasinate in future, and make sure you write down all things you need to bring home from school with you.
Don't blame us for not being able to help.
Stupidity on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part. I'm going to go eat a nice bowl of raisin bran. You're on your own.
You could call a friend who's in the same class and borrow theirs. Or try the library.
More recent books have to be paid for, if there is a download available - try Amazon. If it is an older book which is out of copyright you might find a freely available version - but not knowing the title makes it difficult to help you. <
Sorry, but you're just going to have to tell the truth and take this as a learning curve. Nobody can help you if you don't even tell us what book it is, and we can't exactly go out, get the book from your school and deliver it to you ... you just have to learn to not procrasinate in future, and make sure you write down all things you need to bring home from school with you.
Don't blame us for not being able to help.
Stupidity on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part. I'm going to go eat a nice bowl of raisin bran. You're on your own.
You could call a friend who's in the same class and borrow theirs. Or try the library.
More recent books have to be paid for, if there is a download available - try Amazon. If it is an older book which is out of copyright you might find a freely available version - but not knowing the title makes it difficult to help you. <
If I want to become a writer/author for stuff like horror stories what are steps to take to try to make a living out of it?
I second what David said to an extent. Writing does not have to be your entire life and I encourage you to read all types of material, including the genre fiction he mentioned. You also need to get out and experience life. Do different things, explore, travel, meet people. Without life experiences there's not much to draw from other than your imagination. Real life can help you create some interesting stories.
Also, you have to keep in mind that most writers, especially fiction writers, do not earn a living from their work. You may think you're talented because of a few compliments from teachers but that in no way means it's true. Teachers are known for occasionally blowing smoke up a student's a** so take what they said with a grain of salt.
Lastly, work hard and be realistic. In the world of writing (and life in general) there are zero guarantees you will be successful or popular. Write because you love it and have to get what's inside you out, not for the sole purpose of publication and earning a living. It's a nice dream, but not realistic.
Make writing your life. Write every day at the same time of day for at least an hour. Read good books and skip the genre fiction. Listen to audiobooks as well as author interviews. Read Writer's Digest. Follow author's blogs and Twitter feeds.
Cut TV out of your life to make time to read and write more.
Carry a notebook everywhere for ideas. If you're waiting somewhere, instead of playing games on your phone, write haikus.
All of this can make you a good writer. None of this guarantees you will even publish, much less make a living at it.
So with all I advised, take this one to heart the most: Write for the joy of writing and not for fame or money. You are not unique in thinking you've always had a talent for writing and your teacher confirms that. Writing is an art above all, including a profession.
good luck
Well, it would be very rare to make enough money writing horror stories, but a journalism job shouldn't be *really* hard to get. What did you study in college? Do you have any qualifications? Start making a resume and submitting it to local newspapers and schedule some interviews. Who knows, if you're really good, you could end up working your way to the top and moving on to somewhere like the New York Times. In terms of writing fiction, thats best done on the side, on the very very rare occasion that it blows up and becomes a best seller, then you can quit your newspaper job and become an author. But, as that is very rare, its best to do that on the side. Start on self-publishing online sites like FictionPress or Wattpad and if it makes it really big on there, you will almost definitely make it to a contract. Good luck!
There is no "nutshell" way of writing. Everyone has their own style or technique. That's all I have to say
read books.
study the books...take some classes so you know what to look for: how to pick a novel apart to know what makes it tick.
write.
that's it. <
Also, you have to keep in mind that most writers, especially fiction writers, do not earn a living from their work. You may think you're talented because of a few compliments from teachers but that in no way means it's true. Teachers are known for occasionally blowing smoke up a student's a** so take what they said with a grain of salt.
Lastly, work hard and be realistic. In the world of writing (and life in general) there are zero guarantees you will be successful or popular. Write because you love it and have to get what's inside you out, not for the sole purpose of publication and earning a living. It's a nice dream, but not realistic.
Make writing your life. Write every day at the same time of day for at least an hour. Read good books and skip the genre fiction. Listen to audiobooks as well as author interviews. Read Writer's Digest. Follow author's blogs and Twitter feeds.
Cut TV out of your life to make time to read and write more.
Carry a notebook everywhere for ideas. If you're waiting somewhere, instead of playing games on your phone, write haikus.
All of this can make you a good writer. None of this guarantees you will even publish, much less make a living at it.
So with all I advised, take this one to heart the most: Write for the joy of writing and not for fame or money. You are not unique in thinking you've always had a talent for writing and your teacher confirms that. Writing is an art above all, including a profession.
good luck
Well, it would be very rare to make enough money writing horror stories, but a journalism job shouldn't be *really* hard to get. What did you study in college? Do you have any qualifications? Start making a resume and submitting it to local newspapers and schedule some interviews. Who knows, if you're really good, you could end up working your way to the top and moving on to somewhere like the New York Times. In terms of writing fiction, thats best done on the side, on the very very rare occasion that it blows up and becomes a best seller, then you can quit your newspaper job and become an author. But, as that is very rare, its best to do that on the side. Start on self-publishing online sites like FictionPress or Wattpad and if it makes it really big on there, you will almost definitely make it to a contract. Good luck!
There is no "nutshell" way of writing. Everyone has their own style or technique. That's all I have to say
read books.
study the books...take some classes so you know what to look for: how to pick a novel apart to know what makes it tick.
write.
that's it. <
Ideas for Novel?
You've got the start of an idea, that's good. Here's the thing, a writer needs to come up with their own ideas. It's not a question of fairness (ideas can be hard to come by). It's mostly that you need to write from what's already inside you. What you believe and what you want to tell the world through your fiction is yours and that is where the ideas come from.
good luck
I'll give you some ideas if you solve a difficult technical problem I've been banging my head against at work for the last month. I can't pay you, but I'll mention your help to my boss when I have my annual performance review in a few weeks. Deal?
If I do come up with any ideas, I won't waste them on you. Why? If you won't put in the effort to come up with your own idea, you'll never do what it takes to write the book.
Ideas are the easy part.
Real writers come up with their own ideas. If you lack the basic creativity to come up with your own ideas, how do you expect to have the creativity needed to sustain an 80,000 words novel?
I want to open a restaurant. You will need to create the business plan, talk to investors, hire employees and purchase everything needed. I'll just sit back and do nothing.
Does that sound stupid to you? Guess what? That is how your question sounds to me. You want everyone else to do the work for you by giving you ideas instead of doing it yourself. A real writer comes up with their own ideas. <
good luck
I'll give you some ideas if you solve a difficult technical problem I've been banging my head against at work for the last month. I can't pay you, but I'll mention your help to my boss when I have my annual performance review in a few weeks. Deal?
If I do come up with any ideas, I won't waste them on you. Why? If you won't put in the effort to come up with your own idea, you'll never do what it takes to write the book.
Ideas are the easy part.
Real writers come up with their own ideas. If you lack the basic creativity to come up with your own ideas, how do you expect to have the creativity needed to sustain an 80,000 words novel?
I want to open a restaurant. You will need to create the business plan, talk to investors, hire employees and purchase everything needed. I'll just sit back and do nothing.
Does that sound stupid to you? Guess what? That is how your question sounds to me. You want everyone else to do the work for you by giving you ideas instead of doing it yourself. A real writer comes up with their own ideas. <
What's a good name for a serial killer (writing an english essay)?
They sometimes get named after place names (before their identity is known) as in The Hillside Strangler. The I-5 Killer. The Milwaukee North Side Strangler. Or after a method. The Want Ad Killer. The Sunday Morning Slasher. Or even a weapon.
And then when they are caught, you can sometimes see all three names, the legal full name. John Wayne Gacy.
All those above are real.
If you need to invent, how about The Parachute Cord Strangler, later revealed to be Ronald Lee Jones?
How about Voggen Zile and he has an evil girlfriend named Jenai (female form of Genii) Fawks who plays the song "Here Come the Clouds" whenever Voggen is murdering: Zoggen Vile specialises in stabbing little girls and butterflies. He takes little blonde girls and makes them put their handprint in red on a stone cube he has and he sets that on a tabletop and puts the little blondes trussed up or hogtied next to his stone cube and, while Jenai Fawks wearing golden yellow pants plays 'Here Come the Clouds' he stabs the golden yellow haired girls through the heart but, when company comes over (especially children) he enjoys his legal pasttime of stabbing butterflies with a long thin needle full of poison and watching them die while his girlfriend Jenai, of course, plays Here Come the Clowns. Voggen and Jenai have gold butterflies painted on the glass sliding dooor of their showerstall in their bathroom and they think of the blonde girls they serial kill as Butterflies as well. Voggen Zile is extremely twisted, a psychologist as well as an Episcopal priest, when he sacrifices the little girls he recites a litany to Astarte and Inanna, two Babalonian goddesses. Voggen and Jenai live in wealthy Westport, Connecticut where he runs the Arkham Institute of Behavioural Psychology. Just a suggestion. . .
haha love this question... I actually like reading these Creepypasta stories online and my favourite one has a serial killer named Jeff which I found funny because you wouldn't expect a killer to have such a classic name. <
And then when they are caught, you can sometimes see all three names, the legal full name. John Wayne Gacy.
All those above are real.
If you need to invent, how about The Parachute Cord Strangler, later revealed to be Ronald Lee Jones?
How about Voggen Zile and he has an evil girlfriend named Jenai (female form of Genii) Fawks who plays the song "Here Come the Clouds" whenever Voggen is murdering: Zoggen Vile specialises in stabbing little girls and butterflies. He takes little blonde girls and makes them put their handprint in red on a stone cube he has and he sets that on a tabletop and puts the little blondes trussed up or hogtied next to his stone cube and, while Jenai Fawks wearing golden yellow pants plays 'Here Come the Clouds' he stabs the golden yellow haired girls through the heart but, when company comes over (especially children) he enjoys his legal pasttime of stabbing butterflies with a long thin needle full of poison and watching them die while his girlfriend Jenai, of course, plays Here Come the Clowns. Voggen and Jenai have gold butterflies painted on the glass sliding dooor of their showerstall in their bathroom and they think of the blonde girls they serial kill as Butterflies as well. Voggen Zile is extremely twisted, a psychologist as well as an Episcopal priest, when he sacrifices the little girls he recites a litany to Astarte and Inanna, two Babalonian goddesses. Voggen and Jenai live in wealthy Westport, Connecticut where he runs the Arkham Institute of Behavioural Psychology. Just a suggestion. . .
haha love this question... I actually like reading these Creepypasta stories online and my favourite one has a serial killer named Jeff which I found funny because you wouldn't expect a killer to have such a classic name. <
Best way to commit suicide?
Believe it or not, different people commit suicides in many different ways, based on their character. People who want to draw attention would usually jump off buildings, while those who are introverts would usually do the deed in the safety of their bedrooms.
Since you mentioned "accident-looking", then the best way would be cars. Have your character drive off a cliff; the police would find it difficult to determine if it's an accident or suicide. Or burn down the house; the fire will destroy any evidence. If you're looking for "clean" suicide (I assume there would be no blood) then your best bet would be poisonous gas (carbon monoxide, chlorine, nitrogen dioxide).
Let's be honest, you don't have writer's block, you just haven't thought about it for more than a few minutes and you want others to do the work for you. Don't be a lazy writer. Do some research. Why would someone need a suicide to look like an accident anyway?
Have your character do two things -- 1. ride around town on his bicycle at all hours so that he's known as "the bicycle guy". 2. have him record the times of all the trains that come through.
Then one night, after months of planning, he rides his bicycle onto the tracks where the 1000 ton train is due. It's at night -- dark, so there's no witnesses. The locomotive hits him in the head at 60 mph. He dies instantly of blunt force trauma. Everyone thinks it was just a tragic accident.
Overdose would be the easiest and painless; it's like falling asleep.
Accidental could be drowning, if the character doesn't know how to swim.
Maybe step in front of a car. (If your character would be the kind of person who doesn't think about what happens to the person who's driving that particular car)
For purposes of fiction I suggest inventing a really smoothe and painless poison, much better than anything that actually exists in the real world, for a character to suicide with. . . and you could maybe introduce a minor character who is obliquely related and who works at some high level of Intelligence or something and maybe is dating the character's great-aunt and is able to be enlisted in giving the secret away because he can sympathise with your charactyer's reason for wishing to end his or her life.
I'd say drowning. Guy goes out for a morning swim, gets a leg cramp, and drowns. It could happen to anyone. So tragic. When in reality he just walked into the water and inhaled.
There is not best method for commiting suicide. IN your case where your character is trying to commit suicide i would suggest a method of poisoning himself to death which will be full of pain or you can let your character hang himself to death or simply throw himself off a cliff or else fall in front of a running vehicle or train
There is no "best" way to commit suicide. Methods are based on character psychology.
Find a writing community. Google has lots of options.
Fall over the railings head first.
Falling of a bike. Fall on your head
Attempt a backbend but dont put your arms down so you break your neck
Drown yourself in the bath.
Most painless: Helium asphyxiation, using a CPAP mask and a helium tank
Most Badass: jumping into a volcano <
Since you mentioned "accident-looking", then the best way would be cars. Have your character drive off a cliff; the police would find it difficult to determine if it's an accident or suicide. Or burn down the house; the fire will destroy any evidence. If you're looking for "clean" suicide (I assume there would be no blood) then your best bet would be poisonous gas (carbon monoxide, chlorine, nitrogen dioxide).
Let's be honest, you don't have writer's block, you just haven't thought about it for more than a few minutes and you want others to do the work for you. Don't be a lazy writer. Do some research. Why would someone need a suicide to look like an accident anyway?
Have your character do two things -- 1. ride around town on his bicycle at all hours so that he's known as "the bicycle guy". 2. have him record the times of all the trains that come through.
Then one night, after months of planning, he rides his bicycle onto the tracks where the 1000 ton train is due. It's at night -- dark, so there's no witnesses. The locomotive hits him in the head at 60 mph. He dies instantly of blunt force trauma. Everyone thinks it was just a tragic accident.
Overdose would be the easiest and painless; it's like falling asleep.
Accidental could be drowning, if the character doesn't know how to swim.
Maybe step in front of a car. (If your character would be the kind of person who doesn't think about what happens to the person who's driving that particular car)
For purposes of fiction I suggest inventing a really smoothe and painless poison, much better than anything that actually exists in the real world, for a character to suicide with. . . and you could maybe introduce a minor character who is obliquely related and who works at some high level of Intelligence or something and maybe is dating the character's great-aunt and is able to be enlisted in giving the secret away because he can sympathise with your charactyer's reason for wishing to end his or her life.
I'd say drowning. Guy goes out for a morning swim, gets a leg cramp, and drowns. It could happen to anyone. So tragic. When in reality he just walked into the water and inhaled.
There is not best method for commiting suicide. IN your case where your character is trying to commit suicide i would suggest a method of poisoning himself to death which will be full of pain or you can let your character hang himself to death or simply throw himself off a cliff or else fall in front of a running vehicle or train
There is no "best" way to commit suicide. Methods are based on character psychology.
Find a writing community. Google has lots of options.
Fall over the railings head first.
Falling of a bike. Fall on your head
Attempt a backbend but dont put your arms down so you break your neck
Drown yourself in the bath.
Most painless: Helium asphyxiation, using a CPAP mask and a helium tank
Most Badass: jumping into a volcano <
What are some fake names for schools?
Richard M. Nixon Junior High
Charles Manson Middle School
Timothy Leary High School
John Wayne Gacy Elementary School
You can find names just about anywhere! A lot of the time schools are named after people who founded them or donated a lot of money. They also can be named after the town that they are in. Here are some examples that you can use- Clark Lake, Saint Johns, Lincoln, George Long, Upton, or Manchester. Good luck with your story!
Pick a southern war general and name your high school after him.
Like Nathan Bedford Forest High School (well, don't pick this name if your school is predominantly black.) Or John Bell Hood High School (he was from Texas.)
like many other people are saying, its about people that set up the place or people that have helped the certain place. or the place they are in. for example John Rimmer academy. good luck with your story. <
Charles Manson Middle School
Timothy Leary High School
John Wayne Gacy Elementary School
You can find names just about anywhere! A lot of the time schools are named after people who founded them or donated a lot of money. They also can be named after the town that they are in. Here are some examples that you can use- Clark Lake, Saint Johns, Lincoln, George Long, Upton, or Manchester. Good luck with your story!
Pick a southern war general and name your high school after him.
Like Nathan Bedford Forest High School (well, don't pick this name if your school is predominantly black.) Or John Bell Hood High School (he was from Texas.)
like many other people are saying, its about people that set up the place or people that have helped the certain place. or the place they are in. for example John Rimmer academy. good luck with your story. <
Why bother reading?
I love all forms of entertainment. TV shows, movies, musicals, books. They're all great. The thing that really sets books apart, though, is that they're so open to interpretation. Maybe you've heard someone say books are like movies in your head? Well, they are! The way you interpret characters and the things in between the lines really makes a book come to life. Reading isn't for everyone, but I would really suggest giving it a try. You might like it(:
Reading builds your vocabulary, your imagination, your ability to think and reason. The act of visualization involved in reading is very good for your mind. You can live many lives in the pages of books. In TV, video and visual media... you see the vision of the director and actors... and perhaps the media conglomerate who produces the film or show. The earlier reference to Fahrenheit 451 (which is the temperature at which paper burns...) is excellent. It is about a future where books and reading have been banned. It is not a free society. People do what they are told or sold. It is definitely not a good future. People should be free to exchange ideas and philosophies - sitting in front of a TV does not promote the future I want to live in - nor should it appeal to you. Read to learn. Read to live. Read to experience...
Because I hate people advertising to me. They don't just advertise in the commercials--they advertise in the shows. You have to be as thin with as white of teeth as these actors, with defined muscles, or you are no one, every program tells us. You must have a cell phone like they do to be cool. You can only get girls if you drive a car like them. Real people don't look or act like TV people, but TV insidiously convinces you of its reality. TV watchers ignore what's true and real and meaningful in their lives to stare at the boob tube. Parents quit parenting and let the TV do it for them. It's really a nasty little device.
And though I read mostly fiction, which we all agree is a bunch of lies, it's fewer lies than I'd get in a hour of TV news, sponsored by companies with a vested interest, presented by a multinational corporation with a vested interest in what they tell you, what they tell you about it, and what they omit. TV is a great brainwashing tool.
The only TV I watch is on youtube, months or years later, with the commercial removed--mostly documentaries.
I don't understand the mindset behind the question. Reading is an absolutely necessary learning tool. Nevertheless the passion and pleasure of climbing into a fiction novel.
I can watch tv and movies. I watch to many. But I still prefer the worlds I create myself.
I once heard a writer say, "Watching your book turn into a movie is like selling your prize-winning cow, and then watching it get turned into bullion cubes." If the writers, who I might add make tons of money selling the movie rights to their books, are talking and LOUDLY SO about how horribly movie-makers translate their books, I'll take that as a hint and at least read the book first. If I like the book, then I'll see the movie.
Read the book Fahrenheit 451 and you will come away with the answer.
Without books, or literature in general, we will be doomed. TV brainwashes you; books allow you to think for yourself.
Read the book. You'll come up with the answer.
Reading is a much more personal experience. It gives you the power to sit and reflect without being constantly bombarded. Television doesn't allow you the time or power to make your own interpretation of the presentation.
I assume you're just trying to be funny because you're bored.
I honestly haven't seen anything on TV worth watching in a loooong time.
Tv shows are meant to entertain. Though, books are too. Yet, when reading a book you can, if one wants too, interpret it in many ways and find deeper meanings. Also, when writing a book, you can express controversial ideas in hidden ways so your readers can entertain themselves and take your opinions in thought without much offense.
Reading is fun, cool, and healthy! TV makes your brain melt out of your ears, I know which one I would rather..... <
Reading builds your vocabulary, your imagination, your ability to think and reason. The act of visualization involved in reading is very good for your mind. You can live many lives in the pages of books. In TV, video and visual media... you see the vision of the director and actors... and perhaps the media conglomerate who produces the film or show. The earlier reference to Fahrenheit 451 (which is the temperature at which paper burns...) is excellent. It is about a future where books and reading have been banned. It is not a free society. People do what they are told or sold. It is definitely not a good future. People should be free to exchange ideas and philosophies - sitting in front of a TV does not promote the future I want to live in - nor should it appeal to you. Read to learn. Read to live. Read to experience...
Because I hate people advertising to me. They don't just advertise in the commercials--they advertise in the shows. You have to be as thin with as white of teeth as these actors, with defined muscles, or you are no one, every program tells us. You must have a cell phone like they do to be cool. You can only get girls if you drive a car like them. Real people don't look or act like TV people, but TV insidiously convinces you of its reality. TV watchers ignore what's true and real and meaningful in their lives to stare at the boob tube. Parents quit parenting and let the TV do it for them. It's really a nasty little device.
And though I read mostly fiction, which we all agree is a bunch of lies, it's fewer lies than I'd get in a hour of TV news, sponsored by companies with a vested interest, presented by a multinational corporation with a vested interest in what they tell you, what they tell you about it, and what they omit. TV is a great brainwashing tool.
The only TV I watch is on youtube, months or years later, with the commercial removed--mostly documentaries.
I don't understand the mindset behind the question. Reading is an absolutely necessary learning tool. Nevertheless the passion and pleasure of climbing into a fiction novel.
I can watch tv and movies. I watch to many. But I still prefer the worlds I create myself.
I once heard a writer say, "Watching your book turn into a movie is like selling your prize-winning cow, and then watching it get turned into bullion cubes." If the writers, who I might add make tons of money selling the movie rights to their books, are talking and LOUDLY SO about how horribly movie-makers translate their books, I'll take that as a hint and at least read the book first. If I like the book, then I'll see the movie.
Read the book Fahrenheit 451 and you will come away with the answer.
Without books, or literature in general, we will be doomed. TV brainwashes you; books allow you to think for yourself.
Read the book. You'll come up with the answer.
Reading is a much more personal experience. It gives you the power to sit and reflect without being constantly bombarded. Television doesn't allow you the time or power to make your own interpretation of the presentation.
I assume you're just trying to be funny because you're bored.
I honestly haven't seen anything on TV worth watching in a loooong time.
Tv shows are meant to entertain. Though, books are too. Yet, when reading a book you can, if one wants too, interpret it in many ways and find deeper meanings. Also, when writing a book, you can express controversial ideas in hidden ways so your readers can entertain themselves and take your opinions in thought without much offense.
Reading is fun, cool, and healthy! TV makes your brain melt out of your ears, I know which one I would rather..... <
Why do you think that protagonists of many stories are often orphans?
As a writer of realistic contemporary books, I often get rid of the parents because otherwise it'd seem wrong not to have the protagonist thinking about or phoning the parents during a crisis. Killing them off, making them estranged from their children, putting them on a world trip for a year or a month-long cruise, any of that will work.
Siblings are far easier to work in, but just as often I make MCs only children. If there's a parent, and the plot begins "husband cheated on MC and gambled away their savings and their home is being repossessed by the bank and omg what will she do now?" and the answer is, "Easy--pack the car, drive 100 miles, and move back in with her parents while she gets her feet back under her," there's no book.
You are correct that the "foundling" is a very ancient element of plot. I have some ideas about why it appeals to both storytellers and audiences.
First, discovery is a good theme. You can't have much discovery if the character has everything handed to him. Of course, there often is a wise old sage who may give hints from time to time (and may know more about the character's origins than is revealed at first), but the sage does not lay everything out as a parent might.
2) One of the discoveries is the character finding his place in the world. The truth is, even in societies which think they are classless or that people have opportunities from much improvement, most people really do not have the ability or opportunity to improve their station in life. Audiences are "most people." So audiences like to fantasize about being free to rise above their stations. And parents would just be dead weight on that.
3) Brighter people, of course, realize they are surrounded by idiots, and that includes parents. They like to imagine a world in which they could really advance according to their abilities.
4) Most people, at least at one time or another, become disaffected with the kind of they are doomed to live by having the parents they have. For this reason, many people entertain the possibility that they are really foundling and not related to the people around them. The foundling hero fits into this fantasy. One of the reasons The Jerk is a jerk is that he is a foundling, but does not realize it.
5) This leads pretty easily to some plot variants. If you don't have a place in the world, you are always a "fish out of water," and you are very likely to partner up with someone who is a mismatch, and so forth.
This plot may have been discovered in ancient days when a woman would have to explain the presence of an infant to her husband who had been away for a long period of time. That explanation would be that the infant was the child of a god, so the woman could not be blaimed, and the husband would not have to fear a mortal rival. On the other hand, when a common person did against all odds rise to a high station through wit, strength or chance, that would tend to make his fellows jealous ("He's not so great. I went to school with him.) So the explanation would be that the great person really was the child of a god and so was destine for great things to begin with. And there is the switcheroo on that, a la Star Wars, the person was the child of a great villian.
If you are middle-class guy whose most likely career path is that you will grow up to sell life insurance to your fraternity brothers, you are really going to be a sucker for this kind of plot whether you are reading it or writing it.
Because such stories are fairy tales, written for children. Look at the list of materials you gave, while adults might read them, they're written for children primarily.
A child's most basic fear is losing a parent, so having the child be an orphan immediately puts them on edge by eliminating "why don't they just ask their Mommy to help" from their minds.
Orphans are more than just symbols of pity, they are also symbols of infinite possibilities: An orphan could be anyone from just a poor orphan of an unmarried mother to a lost prince or princess or an alien hybrid like in "Escape To Witch Mountain". They could have special powers, royal blood, or be heirs to a lost fortune. Infinite possibilty recommends itself to the reader's imagination.
Fighting adversity equals strength of character.
I find it in my own writing. Many of the protagonists are one-eyed or walk with a limp - mainly war wounds. <
Siblings are far easier to work in, but just as often I make MCs only children. If there's a parent, and the plot begins "husband cheated on MC and gambled away their savings and their home is being repossessed by the bank and omg what will she do now?" and the answer is, "Easy--pack the car, drive 100 miles, and move back in with her parents while she gets her feet back under her," there's no book.
You are correct that the "foundling" is a very ancient element of plot. I have some ideas about why it appeals to both storytellers and audiences.
First, discovery is a good theme. You can't have much discovery if the character has everything handed to him. Of course, there often is a wise old sage who may give hints from time to time (and may know more about the character's origins than is revealed at first), but the sage does not lay everything out as a parent might.
2) One of the discoveries is the character finding his place in the world. The truth is, even in societies which think they are classless or that people have opportunities from much improvement, most people really do not have the ability or opportunity to improve their station in life. Audiences are "most people." So audiences like to fantasize about being free to rise above their stations. And parents would just be dead weight on that.
3) Brighter people, of course, realize they are surrounded by idiots, and that includes parents. They like to imagine a world in which they could really advance according to their abilities.
4) Most people, at least at one time or another, become disaffected with the kind of they are doomed to live by having the parents they have. For this reason, many people entertain the possibility that they are really foundling and not related to the people around them. The foundling hero fits into this fantasy. One of the reasons The Jerk is a jerk is that he is a foundling, but does not realize it.
5) This leads pretty easily to some plot variants. If you don't have a place in the world, you are always a "fish out of water," and you are very likely to partner up with someone who is a mismatch, and so forth.
This plot may have been discovered in ancient days when a woman would have to explain the presence of an infant to her husband who had been away for a long period of time. That explanation would be that the infant was the child of a god, so the woman could not be blaimed, and the husband would not have to fear a mortal rival. On the other hand, when a common person did against all odds rise to a high station through wit, strength or chance, that would tend to make his fellows jealous ("He's not so great. I went to school with him.) So the explanation would be that the great person really was the child of a god and so was destine for great things to begin with. And there is the switcheroo on that, a la Star Wars, the person was the child of a great villian.
If you are middle-class guy whose most likely career path is that you will grow up to sell life insurance to your fraternity brothers, you are really going to be a sucker for this kind of plot whether you are reading it or writing it.
Because such stories are fairy tales, written for children. Look at the list of materials you gave, while adults might read them, they're written for children primarily.
A child's most basic fear is losing a parent, so having the child be an orphan immediately puts them on edge by eliminating "why don't they just ask their Mommy to help" from their minds.
Orphans are more than just symbols of pity, they are also symbols of infinite possibilities: An orphan could be anyone from just a poor orphan of an unmarried mother to a lost prince or princess or an alien hybrid like in "Escape To Witch Mountain". They could have special powers, royal blood, or be heirs to a lost fortune. Infinite possibilty recommends itself to the reader's imagination.
Fighting adversity equals strength of character.
I find it in my own writing. Many of the protagonists are one-eyed or walk with a limp - mainly war wounds. <
As a writer, do you plan your novel/stories or write as you go along?
I start with a plan--it's far easier to correct a plan than a novel. But often, some character or other develops in a way that I didn't anticipate, and I have to stop mid-way and plan again with those changes in mind. I use an excel chart with columns that make sense to me.
Along with other benefits mentioned already, it helps me avoid writer's block. (or what people call that.) You don't always get up and feel raring' to go over your novel. But I open up my excel document, I look at the next scene, and I can get down to writing much easier. It functions as a sort of to-do list. I might feel less than enthused on those days, but following that list helps me to write anyway, and I get my 1500 or 2000 word in, and the novel gets done on time.
I like to have a plan so that I don't get too sidetracked, I know the general plot of the story before I start, but most of the actual scenes I write as I go. I usually end up with a lot of editing at the end though.
I always plan before I write. My novel outlines are usually between 20 - 35 pages long and detail everything that is going to happen in the book, kind of like a step-by-step guide. That way I can spot any unnecessary scenes or characters, or where pacing is sagging, or things are happening to fast, and remedy it before I even start writing. I find it saves a huge amount of time when it comes to editing but a lot of writers don't like to plan. They feel it stifles their creativity.
I write as I go along and come up with future story plots as I go along and plan ahead a bit for when certain things happen and sometimes make changes to things I've already written.
So simply I guess both.
Well, I may not count as I am not published yet, but I find it easier to think about the scenes and play them out in my head, then have a general idea of where they are going to go in the story. I much prefer writing out scenes rather than writing out a plot line, so it works to just have a general idea of where the scenes are going and I pretty much write as I go.
Oops, I seem to be the few that don't really plan. The thing is; writing for me can go in any direction and planning makes it set in stone for me, and I don't like that.
Both, we I write I always have the main idea for the plot but the will always be things that will come up to you as you are writing.
It plays out like a movie in my head. I just write what I see and hear and then I edit it later. If I edit it as I go I loose steam.
Both... I amend as the characters develop,
and re - think the turns of sub - plotplot as they do so
while keeping the main plot in mind. <
Along with other benefits mentioned already, it helps me avoid writer's block. (or what people call that.) You don't always get up and feel raring' to go over your novel. But I open up my excel document, I look at the next scene, and I can get down to writing much easier. It functions as a sort of to-do list. I might feel less than enthused on those days, but following that list helps me to write anyway, and I get my 1500 or 2000 word in, and the novel gets done on time.
I like to have a plan so that I don't get too sidetracked, I know the general plot of the story before I start, but most of the actual scenes I write as I go. I usually end up with a lot of editing at the end though.
I always plan before I write. My novel outlines are usually between 20 - 35 pages long and detail everything that is going to happen in the book, kind of like a step-by-step guide. That way I can spot any unnecessary scenes or characters, or where pacing is sagging, or things are happening to fast, and remedy it before I even start writing. I find it saves a huge amount of time when it comes to editing but a lot of writers don't like to plan. They feel it stifles their creativity.
I write as I go along and come up with future story plots as I go along and plan ahead a bit for when certain things happen and sometimes make changes to things I've already written.
So simply I guess both.
Well, I may not count as I am not published yet, but I find it easier to think about the scenes and play them out in my head, then have a general idea of where they are going to go in the story. I much prefer writing out scenes rather than writing out a plot line, so it works to just have a general idea of where the scenes are going and I pretty much write as I go.
Oops, I seem to be the few that don't really plan. The thing is; writing for me can go in any direction and planning makes it set in stone for me, and I don't like that.
Both, we I write I always have the main idea for the plot but the will always be things that will come up to you as you are writing.
It plays out like a movie in my head. I just write what I see and hear and then I edit it later. If I edit it as I go I loose steam.
Both... I amend as the characters develop,
and re - think the turns of sub - plotplot as they do so
while keeping the main plot in mind. <
How do you become better at writing?
1. You analyze other writers' work. When you read, you look to see how the author did things, like how they started their story to hook the reader, how they introduced characters and showed what they were like, how they described settings and action and got things across with dialog, how they kept the pace going, how they set a mood. You see what works well and what doesn't, so you know what to do and not do in your own writing. You might take notes to remmeber all the thingsyou can learn about writing from readng writers you like.
2. You keep a notebook of ideas, character names and character sketches, events you might want to put into a story, bits of dialog youoverhear that you might want to use, insights about writing, etc. Then when you're having a writer's block moment, you might be able to use these items to help you past it.
3. You write. You can't be a writer if you don't write. You can't just have a vague idea for a story and name some characters; you have to actually tell the story. You have to get a whole first draft down . Not just a few paragraphs or pages. You do a few each day, but you keep on going with it.
4. You revise. Your first draft very likely has lots of flaws, from typos to plot inconsistencies to loose ends, to clunky pacing. So you read your finished draft and see what isn't working, then change it. You polish it more than once.
5. You have others read it and consider all of their critiques, even if you don't at first agree. That doesn't mean you have to change everything someone dislikes, but you do have to understand why the person didn't like something and whether it should be changed.
6. You revise based on the feedback you get.
7. If you get stuck on one story, start another. Don't use writer's block as an excuse to stop writing. But don't just igve up on a story, either. You can take long walks and just think about the story or the characters to see what happens. You can make lists of possible directions the story can go in. You canask others what they expect or want to happen (not to have them craft the story for you, justto get other perspectives on it and jog your own idea factory).
8. Read books about writing, too. They often have useful tips and techniques.You'll learn about things you may never have considered before.
Read. Read. Read.
Practice. Practice. Practice.
If you're reading and don't know a word, don't just skip over it. Look it up! Find the definition and study the context that the author is using it in. Read your work and other's works out loud until you're able to hear the words instead of just seeing them.
Feel what you are writing. If you're writing a narrative piece of work, let your imagination become so vivid that you can almost physically feel what your characters feel. If they're feeling pain, make yourself feel it and describe what it feels like.
If you're writing a nonfictional composition, I suggest writing about what really matters to you. If it's something for school or a project that you have to write, make it matter to you. Find the common ground. Relate to it. Make it so important that you feel that your reader must see it the way that you see it.
In short, I feel that Ernest Hemingway put it best when he said, "Write long and hard about what hurts." Because if it doesn't hurt--if it doesn't matter--then you'll never be able to write about it well enough.
Write a lot and Read a lot. Seek for comments and comment on others' works. Learn from others' success and failure. Think about why the book is good or bad. Be regular. Don't stop writing. Don't allow excuses. Start doing the above things on sites like Figment or Penana
READ. Write every day. Even if it's just a few sentences. Keep a journal. Go outside. Gain inspiration from the world.
well theres nothing much but for a beginning read lots of good books and just write, try it doesnt matter each story should have plot, a setting etc and just write and keep some suspense you will understand after reading some good worth while time books
Q The First Timelord here,
I find masturbation and oggling women helpful to achieve better writing skills. But that's just me, and from what I am told, i am a bit off anyways.
Practice and practice a lot. Read different types of literature articles. Experiment on new things. Go deep and research on articles properly on which you are working on so you can provide proper facts and information. Try catching up with the trending topic and finally practice and practice a lot
Do the "heavy-lifting" of actually studying Grammar, Punctuation, and Style. Next, learn the difference between Rewriting, Editing, and Revising. After that, study the Masters. There are solid reasons why schools insist on studying such writers as Steinbeck, Salinger, and Angelou. After that, study the writers in your chosen genre.
After all of that, ask yourself this simple question: "Am I willing to separate from friends and family, television and videogames, Youtube and Facebook, to tackle something as daunting as writing the best book my knowledge and skill will allow?" If you can honestly answer "yes", there is no foreseeable excuse for you to NOT write this book.
Try improving on your vocabs first. Then, try and form sentences that looks like it comes from the history of licteracture. Then, you can like...read a lot of books. (I recommend 'The Tempest' by Williams Shakespeare). Then, try and write some poems and then....you can work on your gra mmer if u had gotten confused with the shakespearian language. ( lol )
Thanks it! And please give me a thumbs up Thx buddies! :''D <
2. You keep a notebook of ideas, character names and character sketches, events you might want to put into a story, bits of dialog youoverhear that you might want to use, insights about writing, etc. Then when you're having a writer's block moment, you might be able to use these items to help you past it.
3. You write. You can't be a writer if you don't write. You can't just have a vague idea for a story and name some characters; you have to actually tell the story. You have to get a whole first draft down . Not just a few paragraphs or pages. You do a few each day, but you keep on going with it.
4. You revise. Your first draft very likely has lots of flaws, from typos to plot inconsistencies to loose ends, to clunky pacing. So you read your finished draft and see what isn't working, then change it. You polish it more than once.
5. You have others read it and consider all of their critiques, even if you don't at first agree. That doesn't mean you have to change everything someone dislikes, but you do have to understand why the person didn't like something and whether it should be changed.
6. You revise based on the feedback you get.
7. If you get stuck on one story, start another. Don't use writer's block as an excuse to stop writing. But don't just igve up on a story, either. You can take long walks and just think about the story or the characters to see what happens. You can make lists of possible directions the story can go in. You canask others what they expect or want to happen (not to have them craft the story for you, justto get other perspectives on it and jog your own idea factory).
8. Read books about writing, too. They often have useful tips and techniques.You'll learn about things you may never have considered before.
Read. Read. Read.
Practice. Practice. Practice.
If you're reading and don't know a word, don't just skip over it. Look it up! Find the definition and study the context that the author is using it in. Read your work and other's works out loud until you're able to hear the words instead of just seeing them.
Feel what you are writing. If you're writing a narrative piece of work, let your imagination become so vivid that you can almost physically feel what your characters feel. If they're feeling pain, make yourself feel it and describe what it feels like.
If you're writing a nonfictional composition, I suggest writing about what really matters to you. If it's something for school or a project that you have to write, make it matter to you. Find the common ground. Relate to it. Make it so important that you feel that your reader must see it the way that you see it.
In short, I feel that Ernest Hemingway put it best when he said, "Write long and hard about what hurts." Because if it doesn't hurt--if it doesn't matter--then you'll never be able to write about it well enough.
Write a lot and Read a lot. Seek for comments and comment on others' works. Learn from others' success and failure. Think about why the book is good or bad. Be regular. Don't stop writing. Don't allow excuses. Start doing the above things on sites like Figment or Penana
READ. Write every day. Even if it's just a few sentences. Keep a journal. Go outside. Gain inspiration from the world.
well theres nothing much but for a beginning read lots of good books and just write, try it doesnt matter each story should have plot, a setting etc and just write and keep some suspense you will understand after reading some good worth while time books
Q The First Timelord here,
I find masturbation and oggling women helpful to achieve better writing skills. But that's just me, and from what I am told, i am a bit off anyways.
Practice and practice a lot. Read different types of literature articles. Experiment on new things. Go deep and research on articles properly on which you are working on so you can provide proper facts and information. Try catching up with the trending topic and finally practice and practice a lot
Do the "heavy-lifting" of actually studying Grammar, Punctuation, and Style. Next, learn the difference between Rewriting, Editing, and Revising. After that, study the Masters. There are solid reasons why schools insist on studying such writers as Steinbeck, Salinger, and Angelou. After that, study the writers in your chosen genre.
After all of that, ask yourself this simple question: "Am I willing to separate from friends and family, television and videogames, Youtube and Facebook, to tackle something as daunting as writing the best book my knowledge and skill will allow?" If you can honestly answer "yes", there is no foreseeable excuse for you to NOT write this book.
Try improving on your vocabs first. Then, try and form sentences that looks like it comes from the history of licteracture. Then, you can like...read a lot of books. (I recommend 'The Tempest' by Williams Shakespeare). Then, try and write some poems and then....you can work on your gra mmer if u had gotten confused with the shakespearian language. ( lol )
Thanks it! And please give me a thumbs up Thx buddies! :''D <
Fantasy books for idiots?
Try reading books on your e-reader or laptop with the Kindle for pc app. You can highlight a word and get an instant definition. I have to do that all the time when reading adult fantasy.
Of course, Harry Potter is really easy reading and keeps the attention of millions of fans who don't read otherwise, and it's very entertaining. Percy Jackson and the Olympians series is a lot of fun and very easy too. If you like Star Wars I would read the New Jedi Order series, it's 19 books, mostly exciting and not so challenging that only those with a Master's degree can read. You only need to have seen the movies, you don't need to read any other Star Wars books for this series.
Edited to add: Even if you've seen the Harry Potter movies the books are so much better and have a lot of rich content missing from the films.
This made me laugh.
I suggest the following:
The Princess Bride by William Goldman. By far the funniest book I have ever read. He wrote both the screenplay and the book, but it is different enough that you can still enjoy the book and still love the movie, if you have seen it.
Brandon Sanderson is one of my favorite fantasy authors. I'd start with The Mistborn Trilogy. Elantris (a stand alone novel) is also very good.
Jim Butcher's Codex Alera series. The lame ideas that Butcher based them off were "lost Roman legion" and "pokemon". It is surprisingly good. I'd bypass his Dresden Files series. They are boring, even though they are what made his career. The first is The Furies of Calderon
K.E. Mills' Rogue Agent series. The title of the first book says it all, The Accidental Sorcerer
Read anything by Neil Gaiman. It doesn't matter which, all his books are good, though I haven't yet read The Ocean at the End of the Lane.
Stephen Lawhead has good some books too. The King Raven trilogy is good (Hood, Scarlett, Tuck) Yep. It's a Welsh Robin Hood.
Other favorite authors:
Robert Jordan
Terry Goodkind
Karen Miller
Patrick Rothfuss
Raymond Feist
Ursula K Leguin
Stephen R Donaldson
Harry Potter by J.K.Rowling (it's for the smart and dumb alike, although I seriously doubt you're as stupid as you think)
The Mortal Instruments by Cassandra Claire (Interesting series)
Twilight (It's fluff for when you feel like reading something really silly and having a good laugh)
The Kane Chronicles by Rick Riordan (I love this trilogy almost as much as Harry Potter)
The Orphan by Christopher Ransom (It's in the horror genre, and that sort of counts as fantasy)
There is No Dog by Meg Rosoff (Honestly, it's a laughter riot, and it gives us an interesting take on God, no matter how dumb you are, you will love this book!!!!!).
I don't mean to doubt the integrity of your question but even if you are trolling, thanks for reminding me of all those wonderful fantasy books (I love that genre too for all most the same reason!) and for the 2 points I'll get for answering this question, and if you're not, well I hope you enjoy reading these books as much as I did, plus I don't think you're dumb even if you think so. Happy reading! ;)
Tolkien is tough to read period. Do not feel bad about it. All the poetry slowed me down when I first read it. There are better fantasy books to start with.
Try some of the following series I will list the first book only:
Gregor The Overlander by Suzanne Collins
The Sword Of Shannara by Terry Brooks
The Conan stories by Robert E. Howard
Dragonlance Chronicles vol 1: Dragons of Autumn Twilight by Margaret Weis and Tracy Hickman
Another Fine Myth by Robert Asprin
Interesting how you can get a headache from reading, yet you're clearly capable of sitting in front of a computer screen and writing out a very well written post.
I think you're just bored and lying about this.
But that's just me....
I'm will not question your needs, but unless you're a Grammar-savant, a person with an IQ of Eighty-two would not have written so eloquent an elaboration to his opening question. Get your IQ tested elsewhere, and also test yourself for ADHD. <
Of course, Harry Potter is really easy reading and keeps the attention of millions of fans who don't read otherwise, and it's very entertaining. Percy Jackson and the Olympians series is a lot of fun and very easy too. If you like Star Wars I would read the New Jedi Order series, it's 19 books, mostly exciting and not so challenging that only those with a Master's degree can read. You only need to have seen the movies, you don't need to read any other Star Wars books for this series.
Edited to add: Even if you've seen the Harry Potter movies the books are so much better and have a lot of rich content missing from the films.
This made me laugh.
I suggest the following:
The Princess Bride by William Goldman. By far the funniest book I have ever read. He wrote both the screenplay and the book, but it is different enough that you can still enjoy the book and still love the movie, if you have seen it.
Brandon Sanderson is one of my favorite fantasy authors. I'd start with The Mistborn Trilogy. Elantris (a stand alone novel) is also very good.
Jim Butcher's Codex Alera series. The lame ideas that Butcher based them off were "lost Roman legion" and "pokemon". It is surprisingly good. I'd bypass his Dresden Files series. They are boring, even though they are what made his career. The first is The Furies of Calderon
K.E. Mills' Rogue Agent series. The title of the first book says it all, The Accidental Sorcerer
Read anything by Neil Gaiman. It doesn't matter which, all his books are good, though I haven't yet read The Ocean at the End of the Lane.
Stephen Lawhead has good some books too. The King Raven trilogy is good (Hood, Scarlett, Tuck) Yep. It's a Welsh Robin Hood.
Other favorite authors:
Robert Jordan
Terry Goodkind
Karen Miller
Patrick Rothfuss
Raymond Feist
Ursula K Leguin
Stephen R Donaldson
Harry Potter by J.K.Rowling (it's for the smart and dumb alike, although I seriously doubt you're as stupid as you think)
The Mortal Instruments by Cassandra Claire (Interesting series)
Twilight (It's fluff for when you feel like reading something really silly and having a good laugh)
The Kane Chronicles by Rick Riordan (I love this trilogy almost as much as Harry Potter)
The Orphan by Christopher Ransom (It's in the horror genre, and that sort of counts as fantasy)
There is No Dog by Meg Rosoff (Honestly, it's a laughter riot, and it gives us an interesting take on God, no matter how dumb you are, you will love this book!!!!!).
I don't mean to doubt the integrity of your question but even if you are trolling, thanks for reminding me of all those wonderful fantasy books (I love that genre too for all most the same reason!) and for the 2 points I'll get for answering this question, and if you're not, well I hope you enjoy reading these books as much as I did, plus I don't think you're dumb even if you think so. Happy reading! ;)
Tolkien is tough to read period. Do not feel bad about it. All the poetry slowed me down when I first read it. There are better fantasy books to start with.
Try some of the following series I will list the first book only:
Gregor The Overlander by Suzanne Collins
The Sword Of Shannara by Terry Brooks
The Conan stories by Robert E. Howard
Dragonlance Chronicles vol 1: Dragons of Autumn Twilight by Margaret Weis and Tracy Hickman
Another Fine Myth by Robert Asprin
Interesting how you can get a headache from reading, yet you're clearly capable of sitting in front of a computer screen and writing out a very well written post.
I think you're just bored and lying about this.
But that's just me....
I'm will not question your needs, but unless you're a Grammar-savant, a person with an IQ of Eighty-two would not have written so eloquent an elaboration to his opening question. Get your IQ tested elsewhere, and also test yourself for ADHD. <
How to be happy being alone forever?
I have a friend who became seriously ill in her mid twenties. She could not have children and was not sure how her life would be so remained single. As an adult she has always lived alone.
She is 60 now and has led a very full and happy life, even when the illness flairs up and causes havoc. She has lived much longer than expected as well.
She is involved in lots of groups around her interests and hobbies and is often on the go. When her illness flares she hibernates for days or weeks until she is healed.
She is happy.
While I agree that it would probably best for you not to have children, since schizophrenia is passed along genetically, you most definitely can still have friends and a spouse. Millions of people with your conditions have friends and spouses. If you manage your illnesses responsibly, and take your medications as prescribed, there is no reason why you can't have good, fulfilling, long lasting relationships.
I'm sorry to hear that. After working in mental health for over 10 years I've watched first hand what these illnesses can do to people. Take your medication and keep your doctors appointments. Have a family member that you trust take you.
Get some animals and focus on things that make you happy. Children and husbands=stress, not happiness. Why do you think everyone gets divorced? The grass isn't always greener, be thankful for what you have instead of obsessing on what you don't.
First off, your question should have been how can I be happy. You need to get this idea that you're going to be alone forever, that you won't have a family and that happiness is somehow tied to that out of your head. When you don't have something that you know you want, you tend to ease the pain by making it something unattainable by you so in essence its not your fault you don't have it or don't get it. It may help numb the pain initially but it inevitably causes more when you get anxious and upset over the idea that you can't have it, that you're too defective, undeserving, unworthy, whatever the thought, it's simply not true. Everybody deserves to be happy, everybody has the right to pursue happiness whatever they perceive that to be, it's independent from circumstances. Sure, many people who experience your conditions don't get things like this but likewise many people who experience your conditions do. What dictates that you have to be a part of the former group and not the latter? Absolutely nothing. It is said often that where there is a will there is a way, if you know what you want in life, there is a way to get it. That isn't saying that it won't be difficult, it is simply saying that it is attainable provided you believe that it is so and you strive for it and you let nothing stop you from getting it. Even with your conditions, you show a remarkable capacity to overcome. I know this because you stated that you are living independently which I don't have to tell you is no small feat for a person with either of your conditions. It tells me that you're capable of being self sufficient, making your own decisions, planning things, knowing what is best for you, and it just takes small tweaks to skills like that to translate over to doing something like having and maintaining a relationship or parenting a child. You won't get this stuff overnight, so its unwise to link your happiness to the attainment of it. Instead be happy for every small stride that you make towards it. Relish in the little accomplishments because each one will make you stronger, will put you that much closer to what you ultimately want and will make you happy because you'll know that you're in control of your life and you're doing the best that you can to deliberately cause your own dreams to come true.
Personally, I have schizophrenia and have spent many days lamenting over the "fact" that I'll never be in a relationship or have the children I desire but I know now that a lot of that is in my control. I make my small strides a day by identifying and finding solutions to the things that prevent me from having that. A lot of my problem stems from poor social skills so daily I read books about how to develop better social skills and then I practice them every opportunity I get. For example, I don't know how to talk to guys so I practice on dating websites after I have learned what to say and how to be safe. Every time I do it, I gain a little more confidence, so much so that I know for fact one day I will be able to do that in real life. I also want to become a mother so like the social skills, I study. I read books, have joined parenting websites, I watch people interact with their children, I take every opportunity I get to be around a child and I share with people my desires so that they can tell me where they think I come up short. I truly believe that you can never over prepare for something that you want to happen in your life. It makes me happy knowing that I will be prepared when the time comes for me to actually have that in life. I hope that you can learn to seek happiness in what you can do now and increase that happiness with every progressing step you make towards getting what you ultimately want.
You can't go wrong with pets (preferably puppies) :3 The more the merrier.
or if it turns out you actually want friends, just keep persisting and have some hope
get rich and do drugs. thats my advice. also find a hobby, like playing a musical instrument or dancing, it will make you more social. you could travel too. or write a book. become a scientist and win the Nobel prize.
You'll be ok, living alone doesn't mean you'll be lonely. Do you have any hobbies and interests? That helps a lot. <
She is 60 now and has led a very full and happy life, even when the illness flairs up and causes havoc. She has lived much longer than expected as well.
She is involved in lots of groups around her interests and hobbies and is often on the go. When her illness flares she hibernates for days or weeks until she is healed.
She is happy.
While I agree that it would probably best for you not to have children, since schizophrenia is passed along genetically, you most definitely can still have friends and a spouse. Millions of people with your conditions have friends and spouses. If you manage your illnesses responsibly, and take your medications as prescribed, there is no reason why you can't have good, fulfilling, long lasting relationships.
I'm sorry to hear that. After working in mental health for over 10 years I've watched first hand what these illnesses can do to people. Take your medication and keep your doctors appointments. Have a family member that you trust take you.
Get some animals and focus on things that make you happy. Children and husbands=stress, not happiness. Why do you think everyone gets divorced? The grass isn't always greener, be thankful for what you have instead of obsessing on what you don't.
First off, your question should have been how can I be happy. You need to get this idea that you're going to be alone forever, that you won't have a family and that happiness is somehow tied to that out of your head. When you don't have something that you know you want, you tend to ease the pain by making it something unattainable by you so in essence its not your fault you don't have it or don't get it. It may help numb the pain initially but it inevitably causes more when you get anxious and upset over the idea that you can't have it, that you're too defective, undeserving, unworthy, whatever the thought, it's simply not true. Everybody deserves to be happy, everybody has the right to pursue happiness whatever they perceive that to be, it's independent from circumstances. Sure, many people who experience your conditions don't get things like this but likewise many people who experience your conditions do. What dictates that you have to be a part of the former group and not the latter? Absolutely nothing. It is said often that where there is a will there is a way, if you know what you want in life, there is a way to get it. That isn't saying that it won't be difficult, it is simply saying that it is attainable provided you believe that it is so and you strive for it and you let nothing stop you from getting it. Even with your conditions, you show a remarkable capacity to overcome. I know this because you stated that you are living independently which I don't have to tell you is no small feat for a person with either of your conditions. It tells me that you're capable of being self sufficient, making your own decisions, planning things, knowing what is best for you, and it just takes small tweaks to skills like that to translate over to doing something like having and maintaining a relationship or parenting a child. You won't get this stuff overnight, so its unwise to link your happiness to the attainment of it. Instead be happy for every small stride that you make towards it. Relish in the little accomplishments because each one will make you stronger, will put you that much closer to what you ultimately want and will make you happy because you'll know that you're in control of your life and you're doing the best that you can to deliberately cause your own dreams to come true.
Personally, I have schizophrenia and have spent many days lamenting over the "fact" that I'll never be in a relationship or have the children I desire but I know now that a lot of that is in my control. I make my small strides a day by identifying and finding solutions to the things that prevent me from having that. A lot of my problem stems from poor social skills so daily I read books about how to develop better social skills and then I practice them every opportunity I get. For example, I don't know how to talk to guys so I practice on dating websites after I have learned what to say and how to be safe. Every time I do it, I gain a little more confidence, so much so that I know for fact one day I will be able to do that in real life. I also want to become a mother so like the social skills, I study. I read books, have joined parenting websites, I watch people interact with their children, I take every opportunity I get to be around a child and I share with people my desires so that they can tell me where they think I come up short. I truly believe that you can never over prepare for something that you want to happen in your life. It makes me happy knowing that I will be prepared when the time comes for me to actually have that in life. I hope that you can learn to seek happiness in what you can do now and increase that happiness with every progressing step you make towards getting what you ultimately want.
You can't go wrong with pets (preferably puppies) :3 The more the merrier.
or if it turns out you actually want friends, just keep persisting and have some hope
get rich and do drugs. thats my advice. also find a hobby, like playing a musical instrument or dancing, it will make you more social. you could travel too. or write a book. become a scientist and win the Nobel prize.
You'll be ok, living alone doesn't mean you'll be lonely. Do you have any hobbies and interests? That helps a lot. <
Are atheists proof that the devil exists?
Since atheists are such a small percentage of the population if those were exclusively atheists' vices there wouldn't be a very big market for them. Must be a whole lot of Christians partaking of those vices, even if every atheist was also (which is not the case).
Just plain ignorant and dumb can be the only answer to your terrible reasoning skills.
None of your examples are exclusively atheist. In fact they have all existed in one form or another for thousands of yeas in EVERY society.
None of that proves a devil. He is as fictional as your god.
Plus sex, drugs and pornography are not in themselves evil. They CAN be evil through the misuse of such. But they can also be simple pleasure to enjoy.
Clever question... but also an unintelligent one. I see what you did there. It's a turnaround of "Are christians proof that god exists?"
The short answer is, no.
Like asking if children are proof that Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny exist... just because some of them believe it.
Hate to note this for you and burst your little bubble, slick, but religious people indulge in those things too. In fact, the states in the US with the highest viewership of porn are in the Bible Belt.
I seem to recall something in the bible....something the Jesus character is supposed to have said, maybe. Something about worrying about the lumber in your own eye, rather than the mote of dust in your neighbor's eye? I always thought it was an interesting way of saying that you best mind your own business, not judge others.
Certainly not... Atheists are proof that honest skepticism exists.
You would be much more believable if you stopped your shameless lying about people you clearly don't understand. Obvious liars like you are why Christianity is currently sliding towards obsolete mythology.
The are proof that the spirit of the anti-Christ exists and that we are living in the latter days. The bible proves the devil exists
I'll just tell you this
There's no such thing as gods
Gods are something that humans created to feel safe etc
There are no devils
If you are religious just keep believing in what you believe if that makes you feel good,
Do your really believe this *****? You realise that there are as many so-called religious folk who take drugs, have sex, watch porn and all the rest, don't you? Or is that fact not allowed into your tiny brain?
Lmao. Funny how the majority of drug lords, pornstars, and prisoners follow christianity.
But they're not 'REAL' christians, right? The amount of cherrypicking you people do is pathetic. Truly.
Atheism is unbelief in gods. It is not about sex, drugs and porn.
I swear believers fantasize that atheists do all the things they would do if they didn't think their god was watching them.
atheists are smarter than you ***, Because they don't believe in a imaginary dude in the sky sitting on a cloud
Right, all of them are multi-billion $ industries so it is christians who indulge in them, there aren't enough atheists to sustain them.
NO ATHEISTS ARE REGULAR PEOPLE WHO DON'T BELIEVE IN THE EXISTENCE OF GOD OR THEY HAVE LOST FAITH IN HIM. THAT DOES NOT MAKE THEM BAD PEOPLE. IN INDIA WE HAVE SO MANY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE BUT THEY ARE TOTALLY UNAPPROACHABLE AS HUMAN BEINGS, THEY ARE WAITING TO KILL YOU IN THE NAME OF THEIR GODS.THIS IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I WILL RATHER HAVE AN ATHEIST AS A NEIGHBOR. <
Just plain ignorant and dumb can be the only answer to your terrible reasoning skills.
None of your examples are exclusively atheist. In fact they have all existed in one form or another for thousands of yeas in EVERY society.
None of that proves a devil. He is as fictional as your god.
Plus sex, drugs and pornography are not in themselves evil. They CAN be evil through the misuse of such. But they can also be simple pleasure to enjoy.
Clever question... but also an unintelligent one. I see what you did there. It's a turnaround of "Are christians proof that god exists?"
The short answer is, no.
Like asking if children are proof that Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny exist... just because some of them believe it.
Hate to note this for you and burst your little bubble, slick, but religious people indulge in those things too. In fact, the states in the US with the highest viewership of porn are in the Bible Belt.
I seem to recall something in the bible....something the Jesus character is supposed to have said, maybe. Something about worrying about the lumber in your own eye, rather than the mote of dust in your neighbor's eye? I always thought it was an interesting way of saying that you best mind your own business, not judge others.
Certainly not... Atheists are proof that honest skepticism exists.
You would be much more believable if you stopped your shameless lying about people you clearly don't understand. Obvious liars like you are why Christianity is currently sliding towards obsolete mythology.
The are proof that the spirit of the anti-Christ exists and that we are living in the latter days. The bible proves the devil exists
I'll just tell you this
There's no such thing as gods
Gods are something that humans created to feel safe etc
There are no devils
If you are religious just keep believing in what you believe if that makes you feel good,
Do your really believe this *****? You realise that there are as many so-called religious folk who take drugs, have sex, watch porn and all the rest, don't you? Or is that fact not allowed into your tiny brain?
Lmao. Funny how the majority of drug lords, pornstars, and prisoners follow christianity.
But they're not 'REAL' christians, right? The amount of cherrypicking you people do is pathetic. Truly.
Atheism is unbelief in gods. It is not about sex, drugs and porn.
I swear believers fantasize that atheists do all the things they would do if they didn't think their god was watching them.
atheists are smarter than you ***, Because they don't believe in a imaginary dude in the sky sitting on a cloud
Right, all of them are multi-billion $ industries so it is christians who indulge in them, there aren't enough atheists to sustain them.
NO ATHEISTS ARE REGULAR PEOPLE WHO DON'T BELIEVE IN THE EXISTENCE OF GOD OR THEY HAVE LOST FAITH IN HIM. THAT DOES NOT MAKE THEM BAD PEOPLE. IN INDIA WE HAVE SO MANY RELIGIOUS PEOPLE BUT THEY ARE TOTALLY UNAPPROACHABLE AS HUMAN BEINGS, THEY ARE WAITING TO KILL YOU IN THE NAME OF THEIR GODS.THIS IS MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE. I WILL RATHER HAVE AN ATHEIST AS A NEIGHBOR. <
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