You can file a divorce by publication and basically you file a divorce but because you are separated and you do not know where she is your lawyer or you will tell the city where you last lived together in any newspaper of the city and this type of divorce they do not need to know where she lives but it cost just a bit more to file. However, she has 1 year to appeal unlike a regular divorce they have 30 days to appeal. Every state is different and has their own laws I am just going by my state. The way the law works. If both of you are separated and for example you live in Texas and she lives in Florida. The venue will be in the city and county of the person who files first. So for example she files first then you will have to hire a lawyer or answer her divorce all the way to her state and it costs money to travel. But if you file first then she has to come to you and hire a lawyer in your city or a lawyer that will travel to your city. The other thing is that whoever files first usually pays for the divorce petition and would be called the petitioner. The person that replies usually replies and does not pay for the petition unless the judge orders it. Now just cause you file first does not mean that you will win whatever your asking or if she files second does not means she will win whatever she is asking. If it had been within 30 days you could have filed for an annulment which means their was never really a marriage and it was all a mistake or a lie. Since it is past 3 months then their was a marriage but then again if you live away from each other for longer then 6 months you can file on ground of abandonment.
Talk to a lawyer. I don't know what the divorce laws are in whatever country you live in. You are writing in English so I am going to assume you live in North America (Canada or the US).
If you live in North America, no judge wants to hear your complaints.
Want a divorce? Fine. No problem. Doesn't matter if the other person wants it or not, and doesn't matter why you want a divorce, doesn't matter who was bad or who was good .. the Judge doesn't want to hear it and it makes no difference to the divorce.
Split everything 50-50, decide on who gets custody of the children, set visitation rights for the non-custodial parent, and set the child-support amounts that the non-custodial person will pay.
Your lawyer goes through the paperwork, the Judge approves, the divorce gets filed into the government records.
Poof. Magic. Divorce. And a lawyers bill.
In Canada anyone can get divorced uncontested for about $600 Been 15 years since I got My Divorce so it may have changed a bit . If You get a Lawyer They will try and bleed You for at least $5,000+ so it's worth it to do it Yourself and save a few thousand.
You must be BORED or STUCK ON STUPID....You sound like u r from one of those countries where the laws are very strict when it comes to Divorces...Speak to an attorney it is why they're in that business...And quite frankly, I hope ur wife get u real GOOD ;) !
You have to be married for a least a year in UK. Google Divorce Online and you will get some websites up to help you.
Good luck.
Are you both "separated?"-& feel you're both ready for a "divorce" yet?-if you still live together, 'split-up' & give each other space to mellow out on,-then when you both are ready to file, then go from there-don't file too soon, things may change & you both may wanna give your marriage another chance.-good luck.
Talk to a lawyer or consult divorce preparation website and they will guide you through.
Attorneys at divorcecliniconline.com
to achieve this on your own head to your county court clerk and recieve an application when you fill it out and return it you'll need to play a filing fee they vary by venue thats step #1
Go to the courthouse and file the paperwork (duh)...
You don't necessarily need her consent, the court will give her time to respond and if she doesn't then they will consider it "uncontested", it will take longer but you can still get a divorce.
That is for the U.S., based on your English, I'm guessing you're not actually in the U.S. so you need to abide by the laws of your country.. seek an attorney for legal help.
Questions like this are why lawyers were invented. I think they're called solicitors in your country. Hire one. <
vendredi 31 octobre 2014
My girlfriend doesn't want sex any more?
Well it seems like you guys had a LOT of sex for quite some time, for some women a lot of sex can actually lower their want for it. But you might wanna think of other things too.
She may be depressed. You are 27&29. You dated 5 years. She's probably ready for marriage by now, but you only seem to care about sex. You say you love her. If you loved her sex wouldn't worry you, it wouldn't give you reason to think of calling things off. Try being a real boyfriend, do things together like go for walks, the movies, a museum, try an art project together, go on a group date, a vacation together. Cook dinner with her. Do things you both love to do. She like art, photography, singing, you guys should go do that, have a karaoke night! And do some things you like as well, go see a sports game, a match, or go bowling or ice skating or Roller skate.
You are far too focused on sex. A healthy relationship isn't focused on sex its about being yourselves and loving the other. Protect each other like parents, tease each other like siblings, trust each other like best friends and love one another the way only lovers can.
Cool it with the sex, and also go see a doctor, you might have a high sex drive that she just can't keep up with. But more importantly see a counselor. This isn't healthy. If you really love her you'll take this advice.
My friend your thinking is completely wrong. Your in relation for 5 years then the first question is raising why you didn't get married. This sudden changes is very common as per my personal experience. Me and my wife did sex once in a month or sometime it took 3 months of distance to have sex. But it doesn't mean that she dis like me or try to avoid me.
I try to explain you: - It was just like, Suppose your eating a same dish continuously till hole month or year. What will happen after sometime you hat that dish and try something else for change of test.
So this is the fact that you did not give any space to you relationship to build up.In your relation You give first priority to the sex only. But you forget to respect your relationship.
I hope now you understand what mistakes you may don.
↑↑↑↑↑↑"A year and a half ago, I was just about to give up on Internet dating...although I had met several men that I have the highest respect for,none seemed to be real serious in persueing a long distance relationship.
A elationship with a guy that I had met on the Interest had just ended and I had gotten vry badly hurt....I told myself, time that I would give Internet dating a chance, however, a few days later, I received and email from a gentlement and we began corresponding for a few months...We got together April 14th, 2013 and we are now getting married on the 19th of August.
I guess the old saying is true...Never give up trying. I met the most wonderful man I have ever know....
Since it seemed to happen gradually, I wonder if she is depressed or if she has a health issue that might lower her libido. If it is boring, you two should spice it up a little. Find out what it is that entices her and bring it on. Unless there is something that you enjoy that she does not, you may have to compromise. It sounds like it is reaching extremes if you are sleeping in different rooms, so sounds like to me, you need to move on this pretty quickly and reign that sex life back into an excitement stage. Best of luck to you!!
I think you need to talk to her rationally. If she just lost her sex drive, she might need medical attention, as this isn't normal.
If she likes sex, but sex with you is boring or dirty (kind of opposites, actually), then maybe she needs to talk to you about what you can both do so she can enjoy it more.
If it's neither of those and either you have different sex drives or she's just not interested in sex with you, then I'm afraid you don't have a future.
You need to find out if she's willing to work on these issues, or if she just thinks it's something you'll need to deal with, in which case you need to part ways.
The purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you are compatible with someone. When you find out that you are incompatible in one or more significant ways, it's time to end that relationship. Clearly, you two are sexually incompatible.
PS - The change was NOT sudden. You had good sex for two years, and it's been in decline for THREE years. Three years is not sudden.
Don't sweat it! Have drink, check out some naughty sites from the Sex Dating Directory and find someone who's more than willing to have sex. If she finds out you can always tell her that you have needs like everyone else.
How important is sex to you? It is clear that over those three years (agree with Pick This that this is not sudden) her sex drive has changed and yours has not. You need to sit down and get to the bottom of this. If she is not interested you need to decide if you would be happy with less sex but be with her or leave her and find someone more sexually compatible.
There is an old saying that "you do not run after a bus once you have caught it" You are the bus and she thinks she has got you all sorted out and she can relax now. Do not be a chump and let this woman condem you to a life of frustration, walk away now while you still can, you have been played long enough. With an attitude like "its boring. overrated and dirty" live is only ever going to get worse.
I think the problem today is that nobody gets married, you clearly rate sex as the most important thing in a relationship and perhaps your gf just feels used.
There has to be more to life than sex surely ?? How come you have not proposed marriage yet ?
She's probably seeing someone! She needs MORE THAN SEX to survive this relationship!
5 years, you're just hanging on by a thread. . . . I have a feeling it's ONLY SEX you're interested in. Have you even told her YOU LOVE HER? What part do you love about her? Sex?
C'mon there's more THAN THAT! I need her side of the story. I can't believe you! There's your side, there's her side, and there's ONE SIDE. The judge or counselor.
I'm it!
I think she is just bored of the same thing over and over. Try searching the internet for some new tricks or buy a sex toy to lend a hand.
Now she is 27 and she wants your relationship to end with marriage, it is a high time for her to make a family but you wanted sex without any legal committments
Ask her what she wants in the bed room, and how she like it insted of just give it to her the way you think she wants it if that dont work it very possible shes cheatting. some women would love a man like you. ijs.
Do you know how to make love to a woman or only how to have sex? No wonder she's fed up with it. There's nothing worse than a man with no idea about what turns a woman on pawing at you and whining about wanting sex. You are 29 not 15. Get educated before you lose her.
It is simply, you are being gross for her to accept. Now, stop showing sexual interests so often and focus on love (relationship) with her. She thinks you are pervert now so you should change.
try something to surprise her, if ur realy into this relationship, try proposing her, and literally, " surprise her" <
She may be depressed. You are 27&29. You dated 5 years. She's probably ready for marriage by now, but you only seem to care about sex. You say you love her. If you loved her sex wouldn't worry you, it wouldn't give you reason to think of calling things off. Try being a real boyfriend, do things together like go for walks, the movies, a museum, try an art project together, go on a group date, a vacation together. Cook dinner with her. Do things you both love to do. She like art, photography, singing, you guys should go do that, have a karaoke night! And do some things you like as well, go see a sports game, a match, or go bowling or ice skating or Roller skate.
You are far too focused on sex. A healthy relationship isn't focused on sex its about being yourselves and loving the other. Protect each other like parents, tease each other like siblings, trust each other like best friends and love one another the way only lovers can.
Cool it with the sex, and also go see a doctor, you might have a high sex drive that she just can't keep up with. But more importantly see a counselor. This isn't healthy. If you really love her you'll take this advice.
My friend your thinking is completely wrong. Your in relation for 5 years then the first question is raising why you didn't get married. This sudden changes is very common as per my personal experience. Me and my wife did sex once in a month or sometime it took 3 months of distance to have sex. But it doesn't mean that she dis like me or try to avoid me.
I try to explain you: - It was just like, Suppose your eating a same dish continuously till hole month or year. What will happen after sometime you hat that dish and try something else for change of test.
So this is the fact that you did not give any space to you relationship to build up.In your relation You give first priority to the sex only. But you forget to respect your relationship.
I hope now you understand what mistakes you may don.
↑↑↑↑↑↑"A year and a half ago, I was just about to give up on Internet dating...although I had met several men that I have the highest respect for,none seemed to be real serious in persueing a long distance relationship.
A elationship with a guy that I had met on the Interest had just ended and I had gotten vry badly hurt....I told myself, time that I would give Internet dating a chance, however, a few days later, I received and email from a gentlement and we began corresponding for a few months...We got together April 14th, 2013 and we are now getting married on the 19th of August.
I guess the old saying is true...Never give up trying. I met the most wonderful man I have ever know....
Since it seemed to happen gradually, I wonder if she is depressed or if she has a health issue that might lower her libido. If it is boring, you two should spice it up a little. Find out what it is that entices her and bring it on. Unless there is something that you enjoy that she does not, you may have to compromise. It sounds like it is reaching extremes if you are sleeping in different rooms, so sounds like to me, you need to move on this pretty quickly and reign that sex life back into an excitement stage. Best of luck to you!!
I think you need to talk to her rationally. If she just lost her sex drive, she might need medical attention, as this isn't normal.
If she likes sex, but sex with you is boring or dirty (kind of opposites, actually), then maybe she needs to talk to you about what you can both do so she can enjoy it more.
If it's neither of those and either you have different sex drives or she's just not interested in sex with you, then I'm afraid you don't have a future.
You need to find out if she's willing to work on these issues, or if she just thinks it's something you'll need to deal with, in which case you need to part ways.
The purpose of dating is to find out whether or not you are compatible with someone. When you find out that you are incompatible in one or more significant ways, it's time to end that relationship. Clearly, you two are sexually incompatible.
PS - The change was NOT sudden. You had good sex for two years, and it's been in decline for THREE years. Three years is not sudden.
Don't sweat it! Have drink, check out some naughty sites from the Sex Dating Directory and find someone who's more than willing to have sex. If she finds out you can always tell her that you have needs like everyone else.
How important is sex to you? It is clear that over those three years (agree with Pick This that this is not sudden) her sex drive has changed and yours has not. You need to sit down and get to the bottom of this. If she is not interested you need to decide if you would be happy with less sex but be with her or leave her and find someone more sexually compatible.
There is an old saying that "you do not run after a bus once you have caught it" You are the bus and she thinks she has got you all sorted out and she can relax now. Do not be a chump and let this woman condem you to a life of frustration, walk away now while you still can, you have been played long enough. With an attitude like "its boring. overrated and dirty" live is only ever going to get worse.
I think the problem today is that nobody gets married, you clearly rate sex as the most important thing in a relationship and perhaps your gf just feels used.
There has to be more to life than sex surely ?? How come you have not proposed marriage yet ?
She's probably seeing someone! She needs MORE THAN SEX to survive this relationship!
5 years, you're just hanging on by a thread. . . . I have a feeling it's ONLY SEX you're interested in. Have you even told her YOU LOVE HER? What part do you love about her? Sex?
C'mon there's more THAN THAT! I need her side of the story. I can't believe you! There's your side, there's her side, and there's ONE SIDE. The judge or counselor.
I'm it!
I think she is just bored of the same thing over and over. Try searching the internet for some new tricks or buy a sex toy to lend a hand.
Now she is 27 and she wants your relationship to end with marriage, it is a high time for her to make a family but you wanted sex without any legal committments
Ask her what she wants in the bed room, and how she like it insted of just give it to her the way you think she wants it if that dont work it very possible shes cheatting. some women would love a man like you. ijs.
Do you know how to make love to a woman or only how to have sex? No wonder she's fed up with it. There's nothing worse than a man with no idea about what turns a woman on pawing at you and whining about wanting sex. You are 29 not 15. Get educated before you lose her.
It is simply, you are being gross for her to accept. Now, stop showing sexual interests so often and focus on love (relationship) with her. She thinks you are pervert now so you should change.
try something to surprise her, if ur realy into this relationship, try proposing her, and literally, " surprise her" <
Is it dumb that I deleted all my social media?
It's exactly what i plan to do tomorrow. I am sick of all the social media because all it does is waste time and i think.. well does it make me happy? and the answer is no if anything it makes me more miserable. Too many people waste their lives on these sites, and at the end of it half of it is edited and fake anyway, and who cares if it makes us unpopular? to have a life away from facebook?! these sites won't be around forever it's the "current" obsession which frankly is sad, isolating and i can't see how it benefits anyone so i say do what you want to do, as i will, and i reckon we'll be far better off for it!
Bro I feel the same way except I never got social media but it does seem like you have to have it to be cool and I agree that I wish I could take my parents lives whenever you physically walk up to a girl and ask her out instead of asking someone via text or etc. honestly do want you want to do, that's what I do, I don't think it's dumb that you did that, as long as your ok with it, You'll be fine
You don't have to use social media. To answer your question, it's your choice what you want to do with your life, so only you will realize if you made a mistake, or not.
Honestly I think you made the right choice, and no you won't become unpopular, you have to keep a balance between social networks and your daily life, at times sites can be useful if used with great caution. But these sites, known as social networking Web sites, also have the potential for being destructive. They can expose a person to bad associations. (1 Cor. 15:33).
What you should know. If you are not careful, your profile information, photos, status updates (short messages to everyone on your list of friends), and comments (your replies to others’ status updates) could reveal too much. For example, they might reveal such things as where you live, when you are (and are not) at home, where you work, or where you go to school. Your address along with a brief post such as, “We leave for vacation tomorrow!” is enough to tell a thief where and when to strike.
Other details—for instance, your e-mail address, your date of birth, or your phone number—could leave you open to harassment, bullying, or identity theft. Yet, many people readily divulge such information on their social networking page.
People tend to forget that once they post something online, it is in the public domain. Even if they specify that their status updates are to be shared with “Friends Only,” they have no control over what those friends might do with the information. Really, anything posted on a social network should be viewed as public or as material that can easily be made public.
Bottom line, A woman named Kim sums it up well. “If you are mindful of what you are doing,” she says, “you can maintain a measure of privacy on a social network. It doesn’t lead to trouble unless you let it.”
if u become unpopular and lose friends because of this 2 things could happen. 1, you care enough that your unpopular that maybe u should be a tool and use social media like that because your the type of person that needs "those" kinds of friends.
2. u lose friends and realize you dont need those kind of people in ur life, you realize being unpopular is actually better for your mindframe self health.
fck instagram and snapchat n stuff. I only use facebook to keep in touch with relatives.. AND I BARELY WANNA TALK TO THEM!
I've never had a social media account accept for YouTube and this. I had plenty of good friends. Yes it's sometimes inconvenient when things happen and you don't know about them but unless you have horrible friends, I'm pretty sure it wont damage your relationship with them.
THIS IS NOT DUMB. I did this too a while back and I ended up focusing more in school and raising my grades up as well as doing more productive things. It's also okay to have social media, but you have to make sure to know when enough is enough
In all honesty, I think things like facebook cause more problems than they are worth. I think that's a great idea and you get an attagirl! for having some better than average smarts. Go for it and congrats!
GO FOR IT, DUDE !!! Social media is just a bunch of boring people talking about their boring, day-to-day "activities." You can do better! Read a book! Even better: learn how to WRITE a book!
deleting all your social media is the smartest thing you did.
now, unlike all your dumb zombie peers, youll be able to have a normal conversation with people instead of staring at your phone all day like an idiot.
I wish I was brave enough to do this. I hate social media but people think there's something weird about you if you don't use it.
no, good for you! way to be a leader and not a follower. In fact I think it will make you look cooler, if anyone asks why you don't have one tell them you have a life!
Nope it is not dumb at all , I maybe 25 but what you are doing it is very wise I promise you life does get easier with out it . <
Bro I feel the same way except I never got social media but it does seem like you have to have it to be cool and I agree that I wish I could take my parents lives whenever you physically walk up to a girl and ask her out instead of asking someone via text or etc. honestly do want you want to do, that's what I do, I don't think it's dumb that you did that, as long as your ok with it, You'll be fine
You don't have to use social media. To answer your question, it's your choice what you want to do with your life, so only you will realize if you made a mistake, or not.
Honestly I think you made the right choice, and no you won't become unpopular, you have to keep a balance between social networks and your daily life, at times sites can be useful if used with great caution. But these sites, known as social networking Web sites, also have the potential for being destructive. They can expose a person to bad associations. (1 Cor. 15:33).
What you should know. If you are not careful, your profile information, photos, status updates (short messages to everyone on your list of friends), and comments (your replies to others’ status updates) could reveal too much. For example, they might reveal such things as where you live, when you are (and are not) at home, where you work, or where you go to school. Your address along with a brief post such as, “We leave for vacation tomorrow!” is enough to tell a thief where and when to strike.
Other details—for instance, your e-mail address, your date of birth, or your phone number—could leave you open to harassment, bullying, or identity theft. Yet, many people readily divulge such information on their social networking page.
People tend to forget that once they post something online, it is in the public domain. Even if they specify that their status updates are to be shared with “Friends Only,” they have no control over what those friends might do with the information. Really, anything posted on a social network should be viewed as public or as material that can easily be made public.
Bottom line, A woman named Kim sums it up well. “If you are mindful of what you are doing,” she says, “you can maintain a measure of privacy on a social network. It doesn’t lead to trouble unless you let it.”
if u become unpopular and lose friends because of this 2 things could happen. 1, you care enough that your unpopular that maybe u should be a tool and use social media like that because your the type of person that needs "those" kinds of friends.
2. u lose friends and realize you dont need those kind of people in ur life, you realize being unpopular is actually better for your mindframe self health.
fck instagram and snapchat n stuff. I only use facebook to keep in touch with relatives.. AND I BARELY WANNA TALK TO THEM!
I've never had a social media account accept for YouTube and this. I had plenty of good friends. Yes it's sometimes inconvenient when things happen and you don't know about them but unless you have horrible friends, I'm pretty sure it wont damage your relationship with them.
THIS IS NOT DUMB. I did this too a while back and I ended up focusing more in school and raising my grades up as well as doing more productive things. It's also okay to have social media, but you have to make sure to know when enough is enough
In all honesty, I think things like facebook cause more problems than they are worth. I think that's a great idea and you get an attagirl! for having some better than average smarts. Go for it and congrats!
GO FOR IT, DUDE !!! Social media is just a bunch of boring people talking about their boring, day-to-day "activities." You can do better! Read a book! Even better: learn how to WRITE a book!
deleting all your social media is the smartest thing you did.
now, unlike all your dumb zombie peers, youll be able to have a normal conversation with people instead of staring at your phone all day like an idiot.
I wish I was brave enough to do this. I hate social media but people think there's something weird about you if you don't use it.
no, good for you! way to be a leader and not a follower. In fact I think it will make you look cooler, if anyone asks why you don't have one tell them you have a life!
Nope it is not dumb at all , I maybe 25 but what you are doing it is very wise I promise you life does get easier with out it . <
Do you know of any Yahoo Users that are about to get married in real life ..?
No, I do not know of any Yahoo Users that are about to get married in real life. do you know?
Yes i recieved an email from a very beautiful contact informing me that they will be getting married on the 2nd of November to another user of this site ...
I will reveal the name of the user once contacts and friends have answered this question and they can then edit their answer to wish OUR FRIENDS all the very best in their new life together....
Rather than getting married on YA? Now that is a wedding I'd like to go to. I'd buy a cyber hat and everything.
I don't know those users but I feel so happy for them ! That's a great news !!! So nice to see some people make long distance relationship work!!! Guys god bless you all !!! Wish u all the best !!! Good luck!!!! Hope you have a VERY HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE !!!!! xxxxx
summer and her secret Bf ...yesterday she whispered his name in my ear but warrior was playing loud music so I couldn't hear anything...silly warrior ..wanna seriously spank him now ;p
Or may be
Keen and Meghana :)
Gary and Vampirlina
Ali girl and I forgot his user name ..he was my contact in previous account
Along came holly and y!so serious
T- Rex and Black shadow
:)
Or if no one is getting married then what do you think about us captain ...lol ;p
Jk
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Hey Priya ....I can’t believe the big day is actually here. I’m so happy for you both, as are all who know you. Many wishes that you’ll always be as happy as you are today sis..
Feeling so much joy to hear this from Captain ..Congratulations Sis :)
Omg, what's with all the suspense now! Is it Priya's wedding?! Lol, I don't know the groom though :))
I'm not sure if I know them, but would love to know who they are...can't think of any considering the replies you've given others so far.
I'll edit my answer if I remember :)
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Dear Beautiful Priya,
So happy for you, girl! Showers of blessings and wishes for you! May you have a Happy Wedded Life! ❤️
I'm married in real life, but have been "separated" for a few yrs.-(don't get married unless you truly feel you'll be happy for all 'eternity!')
Not so far,but I know a few who have already my friend,
After being Informed,are very good friend Priya is,and I'm sure you with me wish Her all the Happiness in the world,and may She have a long and happy life.
i think its just a co-incidence that 'priyanka nd Waverider' are getting married april 2015...nd priyanka's engagment was over last 2 months back.....she is busy with my jeeju ...:))
am actually very angry on priya...x:(...she call me her best sis..but never disclosed anything about this.....am gonna fight with her...
its really beautiful to watch when long relations work out...nd i wish them 'all the happiness all their life...if its someone frm online then its gonna be superb ..bcoz the couple i've seen personally 'priyanka nd waverider are the best couple till now ..they work out their relations in a very matured way..they put up their 100% into it..:)
good luck priya nd *****
good luck my sis priyanka nd waverider...
now am wondering 'priya' name is lucky...:))
i have a hint who is her honewala...:p
Do you mean people who met each other on this forum and then in real life? Wow I'd my self love to know about that!
That's Priya. She mailed me on Tuesday. I'm sooooooo happy about it. And this means I'm gonna get a soul-bro-in-law :D
Yep. My lovely wifey and her fella..
Congrats to Priya and her man. I wish them all the best on their big day and their life together :))
@Priya - Where's my invitation to the wedding? ;)
yea Plain old Shahhida was about to marry that time she left...yes she is happy with him now!& yes 1 guy did married & posted a Q & we all wished him!only 2 guys who's marriage happened in front of my eyes!:)
me, no but i expect if i had any time to browse i'd find quite a few recognisable names, especially those who don't mention or refer to the yahoo factor. wedding album pages and websites - not yahoo recognisable.
idk but let me guess
Vampirelina & Gary the Alien
Sonia and Obvious
Rock N Roll & some secret guy nobody knows,lol
TyRANNIX and Black Shadow
Along came holly & Y!so serious
Summer Rain and i don't know who is her BF
because only these folk's relationship sounds serious
Congratz Priya my amazing friend- I wish you a great year and a wonderful time ahead, <
Yes i recieved an email from a very beautiful contact informing me that they will be getting married on the 2nd of November to another user of this site ...
I will reveal the name of the user once contacts and friends have answered this question and they can then edit their answer to wish OUR FRIENDS all the very best in their new life together....
Rather than getting married on YA? Now that is a wedding I'd like to go to. I'd buy a cyber hat and everything.
I don't know those users but I feel so happy for them ! That's a great news !!! So nice to see some people make long distance relationship work!!! Guys god bless you all !!! Wish u all the best !!! Good luck!!!! Hope you have a VERY HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE !!!!! xxxxx
summer and her secret Bf ...yesterday she whispered his name in my ear but warrior was playing loud music so I couldn't hear anything...silly warrior ..wanna seriously spank him now ;p
Or may be
Keen and Meghana :)
Gary and Vampirlina
Ali girl and I forgot his user name ..he was my contact in previous account
Along came holly and y!so serious
T- Rex and Black shadow
:)
Or if no one is getting married then what do you think about us captain ...lol ;p
Jk
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Hey Priya ....I can’t believe the big day is actually here. I’m so happy for you both, as are all who know you. Many wishes that you’ll always be as happy as you are today sis..
Feeling so much joy to hear this from Captain ..Congratulations Sis :)
Omg, what's with all the suspense now! Is it Priya's wedding?! Lol, I don't know the groom though :))
I'm not sure if I know them, but would love to know who they are...can't think of any considering the replies you've given others so far.
I'll edit my answer if I remember :)
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Dear Beautiful Priya,
So happy for you, girl! Showers of blessings and wishes for you! May you have a Happy Wedded Life! ❤️
I'm married in real life, but have been "separated" for a few yrs.-(don't get married unless you truly feel you'll be happy for all 'eternity!')
Not so far,but I know a few who have already my friend,
After being Informed,are very good friend Priya is,and I'm sure you with me wish Her all the Happiness in the world,and may She have a long and happy life.
i think its just a co-incidence that 'priyanka nd Waverider' are getting married april 2015...nd priyanka's engagment was over last 2 months back.....she is busy with my jeeju ...:))
am actually very angry on priya...x:(...she call me her best sis..but never disclosed anything about this.....am gonna fight with her...
its really beautiful to watch when long relations work out...nd i wish them 'all the happiness all their life...if its someone frm online then its gonna be superb ..bcoz the couple i've seen personally 'priyanka nd waverider are the best couple till now ..they work out their relations in a very matured way..they put up their 100% into it..:)
good luck priya nd *****
good luck my sis priyanka nd waverider...
now am wondering 'priya' name is lucky...:))
i have a hint who is her honewala...:p
Do you mean people who met each other on this forum and then in real life? Wow I'd my self love to know about that!
That's Priya. She mailed me on Tuesday. I'm sooooooo happy about it. And this means I'm gonna get a soul-bro-in-law :D
Yep. My lovely wifey and her fella..
Congrats to Priya and her man. I wish them all the best on their big day and their life together :))
@Priya - Where's my invitation to the wedding? ;)
yea Plain old Shahhida was about to marry that time she left...yes she is happy with him now!& yes 1 guy did married & posted a Q & we all wished him!only 2 guys who's marriage happened in front of my eyes!:)
me, no but i expect if i had any time to browse i'd find quite a few recognisable names, especially those who don't mention or refer to the yahoo factor. wedding album pages and websites - not yahoo recognisable.
idk but let me guess
Vampirelina & Gary the Alien
Sonia and Obvious
Rock N Roll & some secret guy nobody knows,lol
TyRANNIX and Black Shadow
Along came holly & Y!so serious
Summer Rain and i don't know who is her BF
because only these folk's relationship sounds serious
Congratz Priya my amazing friend- I wish you a great year and a wonderful time ahead, <
I want to sleep with my mom. PLEASE DONT JUDGE?
Not judging but I think you are not getting the whole picture here. You want to sleep with your mom, sure thing but does she feel the same way, you are her son and sleeping with you won't help her get back into the dating game.
I'm judging you. Harshly. Very harshly. P.s. Seek a therapist, book yourself into a mental hospital and do the world a favour
I love my mom to death-but not in a "sexual-way!" If you want sex that bad-just "jerk off" or go to the 'bars' & find your 'match'-(never fool around with family!)
AHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH gd one m8, but remember even if u really do love her she'll die earlier than u and you'll be left with mr hand. ur mom probably wouldn't accept anyway, incezt is ****** up : p
Please don't judge? It's just wrong. Lions and tigers and feral dogs don't tolerate that behaviour because there's so much wrong with it. Ew. <
I'm judging you. Harshly. Very harshly. P.s. Seek a therapist, book yourself into a mental hospital and do the world a favour
I love my mom to death-but not in a "sexual-way!" If you want sex that bad-just "jerk off" or go to the 'bars' & find your 'match'-(never fool around with family!)
AHAHHAHAHAHHAHAH gd one m8, but remember even if u really do love her she'll die earlier than u and you'll be left with mr hand. ur mom probably wouldn't accept anyway, incezt is ****** up : p
Please don't judge? It's just wrong. Lions and tigers and feral dogs don't tolerate that behaviour because there's so much wrong with it. Ew. <
Feeling depressed?! HELP ME!!?
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Okay, let me be as frank and to the point as the question. People on here are gonna give you all kinds of advice and attention and try to comb your ego a bit to make you feel better or stop you from topping yourself. When it comes down to it realise this:
1) Everyone is **** at socialising. It's all made up. Even the most confident speaker in the world is just saying what people want to hear. If they didn't people wouldn't like listening to them. And - no matter how much they will say otherwise, people often listen to said people with a smile and in their head are thinking ' you are such a c***'
2) People who are worth anything will talk to you and hang out with you because they want to and they enjoy your company - this is a two way street. Act like an a*** and people won't want to see you, crack a joke and don't take yourself too seriously - come up with an interesting convo etc and people will be like ' this person's okay ya know :-)
3) Depression is a psychological bully - and worst of all it's bullying yourself. Sometimes you just have to give that big old ogre a bit of a BACK OFF! and the best way I have found to do that is do something completely random. Last time I felt low I did something daft - I flicked Ice cream off a spoon at targets - OUTSIDE! (I know, mad right?) But you know what it really entertained me and I had a chuckle at it. Best part was my sis came home and caught me (shes younger than me - 23) and she joined in too. - surround yourself with people who actually mean something to you and have fun. Don't let others get you down and tell that mind bully to **** *** :-)
I won't go into scientific detail like these other answers because knowing that your feelings are based on hormones doesn't really help whatsoever. All i can say is that life is pretty messed up. It might be really bad for you right now but it won't stay like this. It's going to get better, but only if you actually try in life. If you just lay around all day being depressed it's not gonna help. You should try to pay attention in school and try to make some new friends because clearly those friends aren't good for you if they all just lose contact with you like that.
Hey, let me give you some real, true advice and I hope that you take heed because I've been there and done that. I am a 37 yr. old female and when I was 14 I became depressed. I was boo-hooing because I didn't have any friends, felt like no one liked me, I had no personality for anyone to like me, on and on and on. But as I got older I realized the friends I thought were my friends we're really not. So I stopped using the 'Friend' word lightly. Through time I hope that you will realize what a true friend is. Even to this day I don't consider myself as having friends, other than my husband 'he is my true friend'. I say now I have associates. Things will get better trust me. It may not seem good right now but things will get better. Spend time finding yourself, what are you good at, what do you love to do. Stop looking on the outside for others to make you feel good about yourself but it's a good time to start looking within. Trust me cause people are funny they will lift you up one day and the next be tearing you down. So you have to look inside and find your inner beauty, so no matter what goes on on the outside you have that firm foundation of knowing who you truly are. Feelings change, remember that, sometimes you have to encourage yourself, find what you love to do, you may meet friends that way, at least you will have something in common with them. I'm a mental health advocate, try to find a support group for teens who are feeling depressed. It always helps to talk to someone. Don't hold this in. And lastly, some people (friends) are only in your life for a season and when that season is up it is time for you to move on.
What helped me out of depression when I was your age was to listen closely to your own thoughts. When you hear an untruth...like you aren't good at anything you try....this can't be true because of the word 'everything'..nothing is all inclusive, so this is a lie. Replace this with I am good at some things... Be yourself and don't worry if others like you or not..some will, others wont, but this is not your burden to carry..it is theirs. Be yourself, don't try to impress anyone...then the ppl who do finally notice you will be attracted to the real you, not some persona you put on like a mask...you can't kiip the act up..so just BE YOU. ...when you focus on what is 'right' in your life this will attract more 'right' to you. There is magic in positive thoughts.
The best advice I can give you is to do you first clearly they aren't friends because they wouldn't act that way if they where even if they say they are whose got time for DAT **** anyway go to the pep rallies go to the dances at school enjoy it while your their its not always going to be this easy for you and if you think its hard now wait until your in the real world and its only a year or two away now if you need to talk hit me up been Thur some of the same **** your groin thur
Advice is subjective to the individual's experience, and has little baring on your own, because we're all biased toward ourselves. What you need to do is figure out what YOU would do about your situation. It's the most difficult thing, but it is also the most rewarding. I apologize, but life has no cheat sheet. All we can do is what we believe is right in the moment and hope we make the best decision. Always try to be the best person you know how to be. You will stumble, you will have regrets, and you will fall flat on your face. But how do we learn not to fail? By failing. By being miserable we learn how to dig ourselves out of it. Everyone has a rough time growing up, and many will tell you their stories, but the thing nobody thinks to tell you is to make sure that you are living YOUR life, and not somebody else's. It is good to hear other people's perspective on your situation, but don't let them decide what to do for you. Get advice to make an educated guess, so to speak. Go forward and be the best person you can possibly be. You are going to fail most the time. You are going to succeed sometimes, and they are going to feel great. Then you'll learn how to fail less, and become that great person you've been trying to be. This is what happens to everyone while growing up.
Always be humble, but don't let anyone force you to eat crow. Nobody should expect a 16 year old to know what they're doing in almost anything, but they will pressure you to do good. You have to separate yourself from the criticism and learn to take it with a grain of salt (meaning you should view each criticism as a wonderful opportunity to better yourself, and add your own spice - or positivity - to it to make it easier to learn from). Like I said, there's no cheat sheet for life. You have to fail a lot sometimes. We all do. We always will. That's just how life is. We all hang on for the love and support of those around us, and eventually for the affection of another. These are things that make it worth it in the end. If you do as I suggested and be the best person you know to be then you will find ways to make good friends and KEEP them, and they will love you, and you will love them for it. Always be positive, always work hard, and most of all always learn from your failures. You seem very self-aware, so I have a huge vote of confidence for you. You will be a great person one day if you keep trying. Please keep trying. The world needs great people.
Side note, to compare this to myself: Whenever I feel I'm walking into a hopeless situation where I'll probably embarrass myself I imagine it cenimatically. The world is crumbling around me, all hope is lost, but I'm still standing and ready to face my demise. It's hyperbole, of course, but do you know what happens when I imagine myself as the comic book hero, or the matyr for my my own life? I do awesome things, and amaze myself. Look to your favorite fictional heroes and imagine how they felt in those most hopeless situations where there was no choice. It's hyperbole and metaphor about life, and the challenges we face in it. Take comfort in knowing you're not the only one that feels that way, and believe that you have the power to make it right. I often feel the same way you're describing right now, so that is why I'm taking so much care in answering. haha
Everyone has a bad day when they feel alone. Make an effort to say hi to someone at school you've never met. You might be surprised where it takes you. But above all remember other people can never validate who you are better than you can. Know in your heart that you've always had significant self-worth a fact that is constantly being reinforced by many of the complimentary responses to your post.
When I was 16 i felt pretty shitty about this stuff but you will learn how to deal with it as u get older and when ur old enough you can move to a place hwere there are like minded people and you will not have to try too hard to make friends. Just focus on things that make you happy say art or music because this will make u an interesting person i the future. If u dont have a hobby try finding one on the internet or get rlly into film or something and talk on forums. Always be open to new friendship.
My daughter is now 25 - but when she was 15 or 16 she said the very same thing to me. I was so worried about her and knew it was time for her to find new friends, people not from school or the same social group, so I looked around our local area. I found out that the Baptist church in our town ran a weekly youth group (they got together, shared a pizza and a game of pool etc - it was aimed at kids from about 16 to 21). Of course when I mentioned to this to her she said 'you must be joking, I'm not a bible basher'! So I contacted the group leader and explained the situation. They arranged for one of the girls in the group to call my daughter and invite her along. It changed her life!! No she hasn't converted to Christianity or taken up going to church regularly (although she did explore that option), but she met a group of fantastic young people who don't ***** or grudge and accepts everyone for who they are - and have loads of great fun social events. She went from being a miserable person to someone who radiated fun and laughter. She became really good friends with 3 or 4 girls in the group - all from very different backgrounds and has stayed in touch with them even now 10 years later. (some of the girls are now married, a few professional, one is a cleaner and only a one or two go to church now) My daughter now has a very successful career, but still says that joining this club and meeting these people - at a time when she (and some other club members) were feeling like social outcasts.
Could you ask your mum to look into this for you? If not, don't be embarrassed or ashamed to get in touch with local churches in your area (Baptist and Methodist tend to be really proactive at supporting young people). I can GUARANTEE that they will be friendly, warm and welcoming - so don't be afraid to ring or email them. Remember - this is just a low moment in your life. Try to imagine how you will be in ten years - maybe happily married, with a successful career, perhaps a baby or two in tow! Never give up on the misery you are feeling today. xxx
Look, this is normal for your age(our hormones are overactive at this age in life), life always gets better, you have to earn it. Focus on one day at a time, what makes you happy today. I listene to some positive music and moved all the furniture in my house. Sometimes you just neeed a change in surrounding and it can alter your mood. You cant be afraid to speak your mind no matter how stupid or daring it might be.I am 26 and went through alot of depression, if you dont take over your depression it will take you further and further into a endless pit. Be happy, start a journal and list all teh good things to happend to you that day or made you smile. If you do this long enough you will learn to see the positive and the negative shall pass. No one can help you escape but yourself. So lift yourself up and Make the best of it. Freinds are not going to pay your bills and most fo those people will be gone seperate ways once you go to college, The world will change for you just make it out of highschool.
Try joining a club you're interested in. That way you will meet lots of people like you with the same interests and it will be easier to make friends. I suggest a drama group, the type of people there are weird and wonderful, they are very friendly and won't judge you, but if you aren't into that sort of thing how about art, dance, cookery, martial arts or music? There are lots of others as well!
Hang in there and stay strong!
Do not depend on other people to make you happy. Find as many activities you are good at doing as possible and do them just because you can. It does not matter how simple they are as long as you feel okay with doing them and they are legal. You will naturally, meet others who enjoy the same activities. You might start by going to a place where people have the same values and belief systems as you have and you will have a few good friends in time. Keep in mind that everything in life changes, people come and people go but you are never alone as long as you are alive, fairly healthy and can look forward to tomorrow's activities. Get out there and make some good memories all by yourself. You will meet friends that way. Best wishes to you.
The most important thing to do at school is learn things that will help you later on in life. You are 16 so you have 60 or so years left to live and just a couple more in school. So you have plenty of time for friends but what you do for your time remaining in school is much more important. You might have some skills that you could develop and most people have the ability to do things that could lead to and happy life if they discover what they are good at and hone those skills. So find out what you are good at and use all of your mental and physical powers to become real good at whatever it is that can make you a success in life. When you are successful and happy it is easier to make friends than when you are depressed. If you are not sure what you might be good at there are counselors and aptitude tests to help you. You also might need some counseling for your depression.
My oldest is the same way. She has maybe one friend outside of the family, and this one friend blows her off all the time. She is depressed and she is now on meds for it and talks to someone on a regular basis. Sometimes all you need is to talk to someone, like a therapist, that doesn't' know you or your family to be able to see the light at the end of it all. I grew up depressed and my parents did not care enough to get me help. It has made it difficult for me as an adult somedays, and now I have 3 kids of my own. Talk to your parents and see if therapy is an option, or talk to a school counselor. The point is to talk to someone. If your "friends" aren't giving you the time of day, to bad for them. I was totally you growing up. I've had to learn to be ok with myself and how to be comfortable in my own skin and like who I am, even though family and others may not. good luck
Just remember you're only human. Not everyone you come across in your life will like you, nor stick with you till the end. One cannot be bad at socializing unless they don't socialize, what is good socializing anyways? Just smile! Have faith, think positive, be happy, talk more, try even harder! Never ever give up.
Have faith put all of your worries your fears everything in God's hands he will help you if you let him. Trust me. I was this way all through high School people picked on me called me freak threatned me and it drove me into depression but something awoke in me and I accepted Jesus into my life and ever since things slowly got better and now I'm happy. You can be too. Your not worthless you are a precious living breathing child of God and the God of the universe gave his one and only son for you because he loves you that much your not **** your not worthless you are royalty because you are a child of God let him help you and take away your troubles.
Hey girl!
Don't worry so much!
Don't be depressed!
You will find friends!That's for sure!
Just believe in your self and socialize :)
Everything will be cool :)
Also you can find social friends ,for example :)
Don't worry, we all feel like this sometimes. Just think about positive stuff throughout your days and that will help. Start socializing and find an in common interest with people who like the same things as you.
Don't worry about it your still young and you have lots of years to meet people and you have many things to look forward to one day you will have close awesome friends and you will wonder why did you ever worrt i went through the same thing now im in college and I feel way more confident and high school doesnt matter now.
Let me tell you something i have observed from my own life. No matter what you are going to lose friends but you can always make new ones. The only thing you can do is be yourself, its understandable if its hard for you to do that because you might be shy around people or are afraid of what they will think of you, the worst thing that can happen is that they wont like you. In which case you should not care. All that matters is you know who you are and who you want to be in life. If you spend your time trying to get people to like you by acting different just to fit in you will lose a lot more "friends". Just be yourself and you cant go wrong.
Why don't you try to enjoy of your own company? I've learnt to enjoy the company of myself and it feels good very good. You can spent the time for your self and learn to love yourself and learn a lot of things about yourself. So if your friends don't even try to hang on you let them go.
I was in a similar situation when I was a teenager. IT SUCKS. But hang in there, and you will get through it. It may seem impossible at the moment, but years from now you will look back at when you were 16 and it will seem insignificant.
Find a hobby to keep you and your mind occupied and off of the fact that you are depressed with yourself. In my opinion, a very helpful thing that you can do is to talk to other people suffering from depression. You are not alone and it is NOT impossible for you to get through this.
I wish you the best!
My advice, take a breath and step back. Don't try and get your old friends back, that ship has sailed. Try finding out more about you and what you like and then try and find people who like what you like or compliment you. If you don't find people like that at school, try facebook or twitter. Better yet, go out there and join a club or something. Never say never.
I fully sympathise. I too was in the same situation.. I still am!! Im 16years old no friends or anything, when I get a new hair colour EVERYONE judges, laughs etc.. its weird to explain isn't it? BUT I talked to a teacher, (my well being teacher) Counseller etc.. They refferd me to clubs outside of school full of friendly people!! I gained a hobby, confidence and friends :) Goodluck you can do it!!X <
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.
"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green
Okay, let me be as frank and to the point as the question. People on here are gonna give you all kinds of advice and attention and try to comb your ego a bit to make you feel better or stop you from topping yourself. When it comes down to it realise this:
1) Everyone is **** at socialising. It's all made up. Even the most confident speaker in the world is just saying what people want to hear. If they didn't people wouldn't like listening to them. And - no matter how much they will say otherwise, people often listen to said people with a smile and in their head are thinking ' you are such a c***'
2) People who are worth anything will talk to you and hang out with you because they want to and they enjoy your company - this is a two way street. Act like an a*** and people won't want to see you, crack a joke and don't take yourself too seriously - come up with an interesting convo etc and people will be like ' this person's okay ya know :-)
3) Depression is a psychological bully - and worst of all it's bullying yourself. Sometimes you just have to give that big old ogre a bit of a BACK OFF! and the best way I have found to do that is do something completely random. Last time I felt low I did something daft - I flicked Ice cream off a spoon at targets - OUTSIDE! (I know, mad right?) But you know what it really entertained me and I had a chuckle at it. Best part was my sis came home and caught me (shes younger than me - 23) and she joined in too. - surround yourself with people who actually mean something to you and have fun. Don't let others get you down and tell that mind bully to **** *** :-)
I won't go into scientific detail like these other answers because knowing that your feelings are based on hormones doesn't really help whatsoever. All i can say is that life is pretty messed up. It might be really bad for you right now but it won't stay like this. It's going to get better, but only if you actually try in life. If you just lay around all day being depressed it's not gonna help. You should try to pay attention in school and try to make some new friends because clearly those friends aren't good for you if they all just lose contact with you like that.
Hey, let me give you some real, true advice and I hope that you take heed because I've been there and done that. I am a 37 yr. old female and when I was 14 I became depressed. I was boo-hooing because I didn't have any friends, felt like no one liked me, I had no personality for anyone to like me, on and on and on. But as I got older I realized the friends I thought were my friends we're really not. So I stopped using the 'Friend' word lightly. Through time I hope that you will realize what a true friend is. Even to this day I don't consider myself as having friends, other than my husband 'he is my true friend'. I say now I have associates. Things will get better trust me. It may not seem good right now but things will get better. Spend time finding yourself, what are you good at, what do you love to do. Stop looking on the outside for others to make you feel good about yourself but it's a good time to start looking within. Trust me cause people are funny they will lift you up one day and the next be tearing you down. So you have to look inside and find your inner beauty, so no matter what goes on on the outside you have that firm foundation of knowing who you truly are. Feelings change, remember that, sometimes you have to encourage yourself, find what you love to do, you may meet friends that way, at least you will have something in common with them. I'm a mental health advocate, try to find a support group for teens who are feeling depressed. It always helps to talk to someone. Don't hold this in. And lastly, some people (friends) are only in your life for a season and when that season is up it is time for you to move on.
What helped me out of depression when I was your age was to listen closely to your own thoughts. When you hear an untruth...like you aren't good at anything you try....this can't be true because of the word 'everything'..nothing is all inclusive, so this is a lie. Replace this with I am good at some things... Be yourself and don't worry if others like you or not..some will, others wont, but this is not your burden to carry..it is theirs. Be yourself, don't try to impress anyone...then the ppl who do finally notice you will be attracted to the real you, not some persona you put on like a mask...you can't kiip the act up..so just BE YOU. ...when you focus on what is 'right' in your life this will attract more 'right' to you. There is magic in positive thoughts.
The best advice I can give you is to do you first clearly they aren't friends because they wouldn't act that way if they where even if they say they are whose got time for DAT **** anyway go to the pep rallies go to the dances at school enjoy it while your their its not always going to be this easy for you and if you think its hard now wait until your in the real world and its only a year or two away now if you need to talk hit me up been Thur some of the same **** your groin thur
Advice is subjective to the individual's experience, and has little baring on your own, because we're all biased toward ourselves. What you need to do is figure out what YOU would do about your situation. It's the most difficult thing, but it is also the most rewarding. I apologize, but life has no cheat sheet. All we can do is what we believe is right in the moment and hope we make the best decision. Always try to be the best person you know how to be. You will stumble, you will have regrets, and you will fall flat on your face. But how do we learn not to fail? By failing. By being miserable we learn how to dig ourselves out of it. Everyone has a rough time growing up, and many will tell you their stories, but the thing nobody thinks to tell you is to make sure that you are living YOUR life, and not somebody else's. It is good to hear other people's perspective on your situation, but don't let them decide what to do for you. Get advice to make an educated guess, so to speak. Go forward and be the best person you can possibly be. You are going to fail most the time. You are going to succeed sometimes, and they are going to feel great. Then you'll learn how to fail less, and become that great person you've been trying to be. This is what happens to everyone while growing up.
Always be humble, but don't let anyone force you to eat crow. Nobody should expect a 16 year old to know what they're doing in almost anything, but they will pressure you to do good. You have to separate yourself from the criticism and learn to take it with a grain of salt (meaning you should view each criticism as a wonderful opportunity to better yourself, and add your own spice - or positivity - to it to make it easier to learn from). Like I said, there's no cheat sheet for life. You have to fail a lot sometimes. We all do. We always will. That's just how life is. We all hang on for the love and support of those around us, and eventually for the affection of another. These are things that make it worth it in the end. If you do as I suggested and be the best person you know to be then you will find ways to make good friends and KEEP them, and they will love you, and you will love them for it. Always be positive, always work hard, and most of all always learn from your failures. You seem very self-aware, so I have a huge vote of confidence for you. You will be a great person one day if you keep trying. Please keep trying. The world needs great people.
Side note, to compare this to myself: Whenever I feel I'm walking into a hopeless situation where I'll probably embarrass myself I imagine it cenimatically. The world is crumbling around me, all hope is lost, but I'm still standing and ready to face my demise. It's hyperbole, of course, but do you know what happens when I imagine myself as the comic book hero, or the matyr for my my own life? I do awesome things, and amaze myself. Look to your favorite fictional heroes and imagine how they felt in those most hopeless situations where there was no choice. It's hyperbole and metaphor about life, and the challenges we face in it. Take comfort in knowing you're not the only one that feels that way, and believe that you have the power to make it right. I often feel the same way you're describing right now, so that is why I'm taking so much care in answering. haha
Everyone has a bad day when they feel alone. Make an effort to say hi to someone at school you've never met. You might be surprised where it takes you. But above all remember other people can never validate who you are better than you can. Know in your heart that you've always had significant self-worth a fact that is constantly being reinforced by many of the complimentary responses to your post.
When I was 16 i felt pretty shitty about this stuff but you will learn how to deal with it as u get older and when ur old enough you can move to a place hwere there are like minded people and you will not have to try too hard to make friends. Just focus on things that make you happy say art or music because this will make u an interesting person i the future. If u dont have a hobby try finding one on the internet or get rlly into film or something and talk on forums. Always be open to new friendship.
My daughter is now 25 - but when she was 15 or 16 she said the very same thing to me. I was so worried about her and knew it was time for her to find new friends, people not from school or the same social group, so I looked around our local area. I found out that the Baptist church in our town ran a weekly youth group (they got together, shared a pizza and a game of pool etc - it was aimed at kids from about 16 to 21). Of course when I mentioned to this to her she said 'you must be joking, I'm not a bible basher'! So I contacted the group leader and explained the situation. They arranged for one of the girls in the group to call my daughter and invite her along. It changed her life!! No she hasn't converted to Christianity or taken up going to church regularly (although she did explore that option), but she met a group of fantastic young people who don't ***** or grudge and accepts everyone for who they are - and have loads of great fun social events. She went from being a miserable person to someone who radiated fun and laughter. She became really good friends with 3 or 4 girls in the group - all from very different backgrounds and has stayed in touch with them even now 10 years later. (some of the girls are now married, a few professional, one is a cleaner and only a one or two go to church now) My daughter now has a very successful career, but still says that joining this club and meeting these people - at a time when she (and some other club members) were feeling like social outcasts.
Could you ask your mum to look into this for you? If not, don't be embarrassed or ashamed to get in touch with local churches in your area (Baptist and Methodist tend to be really proactive at supporting young people). I can GUARANTEE that they will be friendly, warm and welcoming - so don't be afraid to ring or email them. Remember - this is just a low moment in your life. Try to imagine how you will be in ten years - maybe happily married, with a successful career, perhaps a baby or two in tow! Never give up on the misery you are feeling today. xxx
Look, this is normal for your age(our hormones are overactive at this age in life), life always gets better, you have to earn it. Focus on one day at a time, what makes you happy today. I listene to some positive music and moved all the furniture in my house. Sometimes you just neeed a change in surrounding and it can alter your mood. You cant be afraid to speak your mind no matter how stupid or daring it might be.I am 26 and went through alot of depression, if you dont take over your depression it will take you further and further into a endless pit. Be happy, start a journal and list all teh good things to happend to you that day or made you smile. If you do this long enough you will learn to see the positive and the negative shall pass. No one can help you escape but yourself. So lift yourself up and Make the best of it. Freinds are not going to pay your bills and most fo those people will be gone seperate ways once you go to college, The world will change for you just make it out of highschool.
Try joining a club you're interested in. That way you will meet lots of people like you with the same interests and it will be easier to make friends. I suggest a drama group, the type of people there are weird and wonderful, they are very friendly and won't judge you, but if you aren't into that sort of thing how about art, dance, cookery, martial arts or music? There are lots of others as well!
Hang in there and stay strong!
Do not depend on other people to make you happy. Find as many activities you are good at doing as possible and do them just because you can. It does not matter how simple they are as long as you feel okay with doing them and they are legal. You will naturally, meet others who enjoy the same activities. You might start by going to a place where people have the same values and belief systems as you have and you will have a few good friends in time. Keep in mind that everything in life changes, people come and people go but you are never alone as long as you are alive, fairly healthy and can look forward to tomorrow's activities. Get out there and make some good memories all by yourself. You will meet friends that way. Best wishes to you.
The most important thing to do at school is learn things that will help you later on in life. You are 16 so you have 60 or so years left to live and just a couple more in school. So you have plenty of time for friends but what you do for your time remaining in school is much more important. You might have some skills that you could develop and most people have the ability to do things that could lead to and happy life if they discover what they are good at and hone those skills. So find out what you are good at and use all of your mental and physical powers to become real good at whatever it is that can make you a success in life. When you are successful and happy it is easier to make friends than when you are depressed. If you are not sure what you might be good at there are counselors and aptitude tests to help you. You also might need some counseling for your depression.
My oldest is the same way. She has maybe one friend outside of the family, and this one friend blows her off all the time. She is depressed and she is now on meds for it and talks to someone on a regular basis. Sometimes all you need is to talk to someone, like a therapist, that doesn't' know you or your family to be able to see the light at the end of it all. I grew up depressed and my parents did not care enough to get me help. It has made it difficult for me as an adult somedays, and now I have 3 kids of my own. Talk to your parents and see if therapy is an option, or talk to a school counselor. The point is to talk to someone. If your "friends" aren't giving you the time of day, to bad for them. I was totally you growing up. I've had to learn to be ok with myself and how to be comfortable in my own skin and like who I am, even though family and others may not. good luck
Just remember you're only human. Not everyone you come across in your life will like you, nor stick with you till the end. One cannot be bad at socializing unless they don't socialize, what is good socializing anyways? Just smile! Have faith, think positive, be happy, talk more, try even harder! Never ever give up.
Have faith put all of your worries your fears everything in God's hands he will help you if you let him. Trust me. I was this way all through high School people picked on me called me freak threatned me and it drove me into depression but something awoke in me and I accepted Jesus into my life and ever since things slowly got better and now I'm happy. You can be too. Your not worthless you are a precious living breathing child of God and the God of the universe gave his one and only son for you because he loves you that much your not **** your not worthless you are royalty because you are a child of God let him help you and take away your troubles.
Hey girl!
Don't worry so much!
Don't be depressed!
You will find friends!That's for sure!
Just believe in your self and socialize :)
Everything will be cool :)
Also you can find social friends ,for example :)
Don't worry, we all feel like this sometimes. Just think about positive stuff throughout your days and that will help. Start socializing and find an in common interest with people who like the same things as you.
Don't worry about it your still young and you have lots of years to meet people and you have many things to look forward to one day you will have close awesome friends and you will wonder why did you ever worrt i went through the same thing now im in college and I feel way more confident and high school doesnt matter now.
Let me tell you something i have observed from my own life. No matter what you are going to lose friends but you can always make new ones. The only thing you can do is be yourself, its understandable if its hard for you to do that because you might be shy around people or are afraid of what they will think of you, the worst thing that can happen is that they wont like you. In which case you should not care. All that matters is you know who you are and who you want to be in life. If you spend your time trying to get people to like you by acting different just to fit in you will lose a lot more "friends". Just be yourself and you cant go wrong.
Why don't you try to enjoy of your own company? I've learnt to enjoy the company of myself and it feels good very good. You can spent the time for your self and learn to love yourself and learn a lot of things about yourself. So if your friends don't even try to hang on you let them go.
I was in a similar situation when I was a teenager. IT SUCKS. But hang in there, and you will get through it. It may seem impossible at the moment, but years from now you will look back at when you were 16 and it will seem insignificant.
Find a hobby to keep you and your mind occupied and off of the fact that you are depressed with yourself. In my opinion, a very helpful thing that you can do is to talk to other people suffering from depression. You are not alone and it is NOT impossible for you to get through this.
I wish you the best!
My advice, take a breath and step back. Don't try and get your old friends back, that ship has sailed. Try finding out more about you and what you like and then try and find people who like what you like or compliment you. If you don't find people like that at school, try facebook or twitter. Better yet, go out there and join a club or something. Never say never.
I fully sympathise. I too was in the same situation.. I still am!! Im 16years old no friends or anything, when I get a new hair colour EVERYONE judges, laughs etc.. its weird to explain isn't it? BUT I talked to a teacher, (my well being teacher) Counseller etc.. They refferd me to clubs outside of school full of friendly people!! I gained a hobby, confidence and friends :) Goodluck you can do it!!X <
What did you get for your Birthday ?
Happy Birthday Nina :]
Lol warrior u surprised me by remembering someone's birthday !!! That's nice !!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY sweet Nina !!! May all ur dreams come true !! Have a great day enjoy it !!! Maybe throw a party for us ? Lol... Wish u all the best good luck ! health ! happiness !!! And of course love :)
Happy Birthday Nina..
Time to get up from sleep pose in your display pic, give up dieting for a while and enjoy some cookies, toffies, and some junk food..grr
have a great day..
Lots of best wishes from friends on here,so Happy Birthday Nina,may you have a fantastic day,and remember,all your friends on here love you so much,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... us all.
Oh nice to know , me too wish her very happy joyful birthday , may god give all in the comforts of life and keeps her happy forever .
once again a very su∙bȧ u∙pan dhi∙nȧ∙yak vḗ∙va to nina ! <
Lol warrior u surprised me by remembering someone's birthday !!! That's nice !!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY sweet Nina !!! May all ur dreams come true !! Have a great day enjoy it !!! Maybe throw a party for us ? Lol... Wish u all the best good luck ! health ! happiness !!! And of course love :)
Happy Birthday Nina..
Time to get up from sleep pose in your display pic, give up dieting for a while and enjoy some cookies, toffies, and some junk food..grr
have a great day..
Lots of best wishes from friends on here,so Happy Birthday Nina,may you have a fantastic day,and remember,all your friends on here love you so much,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx... us all.
Oh nice to know , me too wish her very happy joyful birthday , may god give all in the comforts of life and keeps her happy forever .
once again a very su∙bȧ u∙pan dhi∙nȧ∙yak vḗ∙va to nina ! <
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